Quick Spoon: We don't choose who we become

Quick Spoon: We don't choose who we become

Author: Ross McIntosh May 3, 2026 Duration: 1:18

Why do some people push our buttons so easily?

And what if compassion wasn’t about excusing behaviour… but understanding how people are shaped?

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore a powerful idea:

None of us chose our genetics.

None of us chose our upbringing.

None of us chose the experiences that shaped us.

But…

We do have some say in who we become next.

A thought-provoking reflection on compassion, responsibility, and how we respond to difficult people—at work and beyond.

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