PRP015: Angry Parents Part 2 Acting inline with values despite anger

PRP015: Angry Parents Part 2 Acting inline with values despite anger

Author: Nicole Weeks: PhD/Masters Provisional Psychologist, Mum of two, Science-Practitioner March 28, 2016 Duration: 23:05
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Show Notes: Angry Parents Part 2 Acting inline with values despite anger
In Angry Parents Part 1, Dr Koa Whittingham (Parenting from the Heart - www.koawhittingham.com) introduced us to how Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) techniques and principles can help us to manage our anger when our kids press our buttons. Although there are ways to minimise anger, we can never get rid of it completely and forever. Our aim instead is to recognise but not be consumed by our anger such that we can act inline with our values despite anger.
Summary

Getting into the habit of mindfulness.

Formal, structured practice, e.g. guided mindfulness (see below), or yoga class.
Reminders around daily activities.
Can mindfully do anything.


How can we use this in the crucial situations (e.g. one child hurting the other).

It is difficult and needs practice.
Practice mindfulness when calm (there is a mindfulness exercise included in this podcast).
Mindful focus on the present.
Decide how you want to react to critical situations and practice it. Practice by yourself, so when you are angry you can draw on that practiced response.
Look for the pattern in difficult behaviour and try to prevent it.


Resources

Becoming Mum

Chapter 7: The Emotional Journey
Chapter 10: Taking care of yourself
Chapter 11: Building a rewarding life
Chapter 12: Social support


ACT on Life not Anger by Dr Eifert, Dr McKay, and Dr Forsyth



Links

Parenting from the Heart: www.koawhittingham.com
Becoming Mum
Dr Koa Whittingham's Meditations
Dr Russ Harris Mindfulness Meditation CDs
Possums Sleep Intervention: Possums Online, and Feed your baby to sleep - The possums sleep intervention new recommendations and podcast episode PRP017 coming soon.

For more great resources on Mindfulness and ACT for parents, check out thes links:

Free Mindfulness Meditation App for pregnant couples: Mind the Bump .Org .Au
9 Tips for Mindful Mothering
ACT: Taking Hurt to Hope – Struggling with attachment with Newborns

This is the second Episode in the series, here are links to the rest of the series:

PRP014: Angry Parents Part 1 Acting inline with values despite anger
PRP015: Angry Parents Part 2 Acting inline with values despite anger
PRP016: Becoming a Mother
PRP017: The Possums Sleep Intervention Part 1
PRP018: The Possums Sleep Intervention Part 2
PRP019: The Possums Sleep Intervention Part 3
PRP020: The Possums Sleep Intervention Part 4

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Ever feel like you're navigating the wild world of parenting by guesswork? You're not alone. The Practical Research Parenting Podcast is here to bridge the gap between academic journals and the day-to-day reality of raising kids. Hosted by Nicole Weeks, a provisional psychologist and a mum of two young children herself, this series digs into the evidence behind the big parenting topics without losing sight of the practical, often messy, application. Nicole brings her perspective as both a science-practitioner and a parent living through the toddler and preschooler years right alongside you. The conversation in this podcast begins with foundational issues like sleep and discipline, then evolves based on real questions-both those arising from her own family life and those sent in by the community. It’s specifically tailored for parents with children born from 2011 onward, making the discussions immediately relevant. You’ll find a thoughtful, relatable exploration of how research can inform our approaches to attachment, behaviour, and building positive, lasting connections with our little ones. It’s less about rigid rules and more about understanding the ‘why’ behind the strategies, giving you a grounded, evidence-based toolkit for your own parenting journey.
Author: Language: en-au Episodes: 33

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PRP023 Angry Kids: Emotional or attention seeking? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:18
Show Notes: Angry Kids - Emotional or attention seeking? Do you have angry kids at times? Does your child throw tantrums? Lash out? Is it attention seeking? Or emotional? Should we ignore the behaviour? Is empathising re…
PRP022 Prepare for Baby: New Workshop [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:34
Show Notes: Prepare for Baby - New Workshop If you want to prepare for baby, but don't know how, this workshop conducted by Laura Alfred and Erla Marx Newhouse will give you an opportunity to think about and discuss what…
PRP020: Possums Sleep Intervention Part 4 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 14:41
Show Notes: Possums Sleep Intervention Part 4 Dr Koa Whittingham (A collaborator on the Possums Sleep Intervention - www.possumsonline.com) shares her thoughts on the use of dummies, and dealing with separation anxiety a…
PRP019 Possums Sleep Intervention Part 3 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:44
Show Notes: Possums Sleep Intervention Part 3 Dr Koa Whittingham (A collaborator on the Possums Sleep Intervention - www.possumsonline.com) shares some wonderful information about the Possums Sleep Intervention including…
PRP018 Possums Sleep Intervention Part 2 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:17
Show Notes: Possums Sleep Intervention Part 2 Dr Koa Whittingham (A collaborator on the Possums Sleep Intervention - www.possumsonline.com) and I discuss the goals of the Possums Sleep intervention. Koa shares some great…
PRP017: The Possums Sleep Intervention Part 1 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 24:09
Show Notes: Possums Sleep Intervention Part 1 Dr Koa Whittingham (A collaborator on the Possums Sleep Intervention - www.possumsonline.com) shares some wonderful information about the Possums sleep intervention, and how…
PRP016: Becoming a Mother [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:40
Show Notes: Becoming a Mother Dr Koa Whittingham (Parenting from the Heart - www.koawhittingham.com) shares some wonderful advice and tools for smoothing the transition when becoming a mother, through a discussion of her…
PRP014: Angry Parents Part 1 Acting inline with values despite anger [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 27:12
Show Notes: Angry Parents Part 1 Acting inline with values despite anger This is a really valuable episode where Dr Koa Whittingham (Parenting from the Heart - www.koawhittingham.com) leads us through using Acceptance an…
PRP013: My Child Refuses Sleep [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 19:40
Show Notes: My Child Refuses Sleep Has your child become an expert at stalling bedtime? Have you gone through patches where your child refuses sleep? Most parents have been there. It is a most frustrating time, when long…

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