Abortion Doula Hannah Matthews on Bodily Autonomy, Shame & Pleasure in a Post-Roe America

Abortion Doula Hannah Matthews on Bodily Autonomy, Shame & Pleasure in a Post-Roe America

Author: Courtney Kocak June 25, 2025 Duration: 57:47
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Curious about how desire and intimacy shape lives in different corners of the globe? Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World takes you on a journey, guided by host Courtney Kocak, that treats human connection with the same insightful and adventurous spirit as a travel documentary. This isn't a clinical discussion; it's a series of frank, often hilarious, and always sex-positive conversations that peel back the layers on topics many shy away from. Courtney and her expert guests dive into everything from polyamory and sex work to the complexities of PMDD and the cultural nuances of practices like Shibari, all with the goal of destigmatizing the vast spectrum of human experience. The podcast distinguishes itself with dedicated travel series, transporting you to the streets of Mexico City, the design districts of Helsinki, and the neon-lit alleys of Tokyo to explore local seductive subcultures and attitudes firsthand. Each episode feels like a candid chat with well-informed friends, blending personal narrative with global perspective. You'll come away from this podcast with a deeper understanding of how love, gender, and relationships are lived and celebrated worldwide, all while being thoroughly entertained. It’s for anyone who believes the most fascinating landscapes are often the intimate ones we carry within us and build with others.
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