Interview with Susanne Bennett | Ep #42

Interview with Susanne Bennett | Ep #42

Author: Rick Koonce June 20, 2025 Duration: 35:49

Susanne Bennett describes herself as a white, queer, cis-gender, able-bodied, and educated elder woman.


At 78, this former college professor and retired clinical social worker also describes herself as a questioner, a doubter, and someone who's always sought to better understand herself as a sexual and spiritual person.


These are just a few of the topics Susanne explores in a new memoir, Evolving: Faith, Sexuality and Aging.


The book chronicles a life that's been full of unexpected twists and turns, moments of doubt and uncertainty, followed by hard-won personal clarity --- about the interrelationship of sexuality, spirituality, and the aging process.
 

Growing up in the south, the daughter of a Southern Baptist minister, Susanne considered herself straight and religiously conservative for many years.  She married a man, became a mother to two children, and settled down to married life.


But then her husband announced he was gay, and her daughter came out as a lesbian at 17.


All this rocked Susanne's world.  And prompted her to ask a lot of questions; to become curious about herself and her faith, and to embark on a path of learning and self-discovery that changed her life forever.


Today, Susanne's happily married to her wife, Cay and lives in Brewster, MA. She's also a grandmother with three grandkids who identify as trans or non-binary.


In this thoughtful interview with PFLAG Cape Cod's Rick Koonce, Susanne opens up – about faith, family, her unique life journey, and her fluid sexuality.
   

She talks too about her life today on Cape Cod, as a member of St. Mary's Episcopal Church in Barnstable, MA.


And, about how her religious faith has evolved, just as her understanding of her sexuality has evolved over more than seven decades of living.


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Hosted by Rick Koonce, Profiles in LGBTQ+ Courage: Real Stories of Identity & Acceptance is built around intimate, unscripted conversations that go beyond headlines. This podcast lives in the personal moments-the difficult family dinner, the quiet realization, the supportive friend’s first question. You’ll hear directly from LGBTQ+ individuals, their parents, siblings, and allies, sharing narratives that are less about grand declarations and more about the daily, nuanced journey toward living authentically. The stories encompass coming out, gender transition, and the complex, ongoing search for belonging, offering a raw and moving look at what courage actually sounds like in real time. Produced by Huntington Northstar Productions in partnership with PFLAG Cape Cod, each episode functions as a personal audio journal, focusing on a single portrait where vulnerability and strength are inseparable. Listening feels like being invited into a deeply meaningful, private conversation that highlights our shared humanity. The collective result is a powerful and necessary tapestry of voices that celebrates resilience while honestly examining the challenges within families and communities. Tune in for a series that connects through specificity, where every story adds a vital thread to the broader fabric of human experience.
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