How Victimhood and Narcissism Hold Us Back (w/ Scott Barry Kaufman)

How Victimhood and Narcissism Hold Us Back (w/ Scott Barry Kaufman)

Author: Paul Ollinger July 2, 2025 Duration: 50:05
Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist and best-selling author of the book Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential. Scott’s writing dives deep into the psychology of the victim mindset, narcissism, and the impact of performative vulnerability on social media. Having overcome childhood misdiagnoses that placed him in special ed classes and bullying peers, Scott went on to earn a PhD from Yale. He shares this deeply personal story of as a teachable moment to discuss mental health, cancel culture, psychological flexibility, and what truly helps us grow as humans. Thought-provoking, funny, and brutally honest—this is a must-watch for anyone navigating identity, trauma, or the modern self-help world. Scott’s other books include Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization and Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt.

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