Pushing Our Kids Too Hard: On Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace

Pushing Our Kids Too Hard: On Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace

Author: Paul Ollinger November 8, 2023 Duration: 49:29
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Jennifer Wallace is a journalist and author specializing in psychology, parenting, and health. Her new book 'Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic—And What We Can Do About It' delves into our modern dilemma of busyness, achievement, credentialing, and status-seeking. Katie Couric calls the New York Times best-seller 'Never Enough; “a wake up call for all of us.” A frequent contributor to the Wall Street Journal and Washington Post, Jennifer’s work explores the intersection of societal trends and individual well-being. In this conversation, Jennifer and I discuss:


What Harvard can and can’t do for you (or your child)

The 6 factors that contribute to a great college experience

Why it matters that our kids know they matter

Stress, grind culture, and mental health\

The importance of chores for children and teens

The family chore that young Jennifer put off until Sunday night

What Alanis Morissette was telling us in her song ‘Perfect'


"Sometimes is never quite enough
If you're flawless, then you'll win my love"
-Alanis Morissette, Perfect
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