The Narcissist Next-door with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

The Narcissist Next-door with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Author: Paul Ollinger March 20, 2024 Duration: 1:02:36
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist and author of the New York Times best-seller It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People. In this insight-rich conversation, Dr. Ramani explains the traits and behaviors of narcissistic individuals, how they hijack our well-being, and the motivations behind their attention-seeking behavior. She also relieves Paul of the sneaking suspicion that he might be a narcissist. Other topics include:


Gender and narcissism (ladies is narcissists too!)

The continuum and different types of narcissism, including: grandiose, malignant, neglectful and also self-righteous narcissism (Paul’s favorite!)

How social media has amplified narcissistic behaviors and their impact on society.

Gaslighting and other tools narcissists use to sow self-doubt.

Which cities has more narcissists, Los Angeles or Washington D.C.?

The Different roles that evolve in narcissistic family systems (the golden child, scapegoat, fixer, peacekeeper, invisible child, and truth seer)

The correlation between ADHD and narcissism 

The process of healing from narcissistic abuse and moving towards a thriving life.


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