659: Matt Selby on Kindness is Everything

659: Matt Selby on Kindness is Everything

Author: Inspiring interviews with todays most successful restaurateurs 2-days a wee October 17, 2019 Duration: 1:23:00

Originating from Denver's Five Points Community, Matt Selby got his start in the restaurant industry at the once-popular, Rattlesnake Grill. His skill in the kitchen and ability to lead others was quickly recognized by those in the industry. It was clear opportunities were inevitable. Those Opportunities came in 1997 when Selby was approached by Josh Wolkon to Join Vesta, a Secret Sauce restaurant concept.

Selby parted ways with Secret Sauce in 2013, and has been earning a living as a consultant, opening restaurants, overseeing multiple locations as culinary director, and occasionally serving as a line cook.  He's recognized for being key in contributing Denver's Culinary foundation, not only for his skills in the kitchen but more importantly for his patience and passion to serve as a mentor to the next generation of professionals.

Show notes…

Favorite success quote or mantra:

  • "Kindness is everything."

In this episode with Matt Selby well will discuss:

  • Leadership skills
  • Passion
  • Bring up your team
  • Give value
  • Thew difference between customers and guests
  • the difference between commanding and demanding respect
  • What will get you through the hardships of the industry
  • Inherent leadership
  • Engage with people always
  • The pros and cons of consulting
  • Speak up for yourself while giving leeway to others
  • Best inventory practices
  • Reducing waste in the kitchen
  • Marijuana in the industry

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Knowledge bombs

  1. Which "it factor" habit, trait, or characteristic you believe most contributes to your success?
    • Kindness
  2. What is your biggest weakness?
    • Kindness to a fault
  3. What's one question you ask or thing you look for during an interview?
    • Motivation
  4. What's a current challenge? How are you dealing with it?
    • Getting out of bed
  5. Share one code of conduct or behavior you teach your team.
    • Professionalism/directness
  6. What is one uncommon standard of service you teach your staff?
    • Pay attention, be proactive
  7. What's one book we must read to become a better person or restaurant owner?
  8. What's the one thing you feel restaurateurs don't know well enough or do often enough?
    • Pay attention
  9. What's one piece of technology you've adopted within your four walls restaurant and how has it influence operations?
  10. If you got the news that you'd be leaving this world tomorrow and all memories of you, your work, and your restaurants would be lost with your departure with the exception of 3 pieces of wisdom you could leave behind for the good of humanity, what would they be?
    • Giving back
    • Being kind
    • Working hard

Contact info:

West of Surrender website (current client)

Email: selbymatt5@gmail.com

Get in touch: 720-387-5311

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Huge thanks to Matt Selby for joining me for another awesome episode. Until next time!

 

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Eric Cacciatore sits down with the people who actually run the show in the world of food service. Restaurant Unstoppable with Eric Cacciatore is built on conversations with established restaurateurs and seasoned professionals who have navigated the intense realities of the industry. Twice a week, these interviews dig past the surface, focusing on the tangible details of leadership, team management, and effective marketing that separate a thriving venue from a struggling one. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of what worked, what didn’t, and the often-overlooked decisions that shape a restaurant's path. This podcast serves as a direct line to collective experience, whether you're dreaming of your first opening or steering a multi-location group. The dialogue is practical, centered on the daily grind and long-term strategy needed to build something lasting. For anyone invested in the business of hospitality, these regular episodes compile a vital resource, turning shared insights into actionable knowledge for your own journey.
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