Deeper Connection: An Algorithmic Illusion of Intimacy?

Deeper Connection: An Algorithmic Illusion of Intimacy?

Author: Gareth King February 28, 2026 Duration: 47:15

The internet brought connectivity unlike anything we’d ever experienced. But by making so much of our communication instant and effortless, has it actually eroded everything we need to truly connect with each other?

Helping us examine how the digital world affects our ability to connect with people is Maria-Elena Lukeides, a clinical psychologist specialising in Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioural Therapies, drawing on neuroscience, behavioural design, and evolutionary psychology.

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In this episode, Maria-Elena joins us to examine the impact of the internet and social media on human connection. We explore how digital communication has changed the nature of relationships, the illusion of connection in a hyper-connected world, the addictive nature of dopamine-driven validation, and the importance of oxytocin for deeper connections.

We also look at the neuroscience behind social interactions, the dangers of AI in fostering isolation, and the importance of patience and vulnerability in building meaningful relationships.

00:00 The Impact of the Internet on Human Connection

02:34 The Illusion of Connection in a Digital Age

06:03 The Depth of Communication: Online vs. Offline

10:37 The Erosion of Patience in Relationships

13:30 The Challenge of Unpleasant Emotions

17:14 Dopamine vs. Oxytocin: The Chemistry of Connection

20:53 The Quest for Meaningful Relationships in a Fast-Paced World

24:17 The Impact of Digital Communication on Real-Life Connections

28:23 AI as a Substitute for Human Connection

33:43 The Challenges of Modern Relationships

38:07 Strategies for Building Resilience in Relationships

41:00 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy and Connection


It’s a question that nags at anyone who’s ever felt a pang of nostalgia or a wave of digital fatigue: are we better or worse off because of our constant connection? Hosted by Gareth King, Ruined By The Internet? digs into that uneasy feeling, moving beyond simple headlines to explore how our online world actively moulds society, culture, and the texture of daily life. This isn’t about reviewing apps or gadgets; it’s about treating the digital realm as the pervasive environment it has become. Each episode features thoughtful conversations with leading thinkers and researchers from around the world, dissecting the real evidence behind our shared anxieties and hopes. You’ll hear nuanced discussions that ask whether the casualties we often blame on technology are inevitable, or if we’re simply misdiagnosing deeper societal shifts. This podcast provides a space for considered reflection, offering listeners a clearer lens through which to view their own place in a world that is, for better or worse, thoroughly wired.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 26

Ruined By The Internet? - Uncovering the human cost of our digital world
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Duration: 41:24
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Duration: 48:21
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Duration: 48:22
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Duration: 47:46
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Duration: 43:33
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