When it comes to empowering ourselves, we were told the internet would give us back control. But instead, has it simply delivered a more efficient way for us to become products, and successfully rebranded objectification as agency?
Welcome to Ruined By The Internet? - the show where we examine how technology is shaping modern life - whether we want it to or not.
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We’re joined by Courtney Kocak - writer, comedian, and author of the memoir ‘Girl Gone Wild’ - to investigate one of the most uncomfortable questions about what technology has done to identity, autonomy, power, and the people caught in between.
In this episode we trace the journey from early 2000s media to today's self-monetisation platforms, examine how the attention economy and algorithms have reshaped desire and self-perception, investigate the rise of online male communities and their generational impact, and ask whether AI is accelerating the problem - or simply making it harder to see.
(00:00) The Internet's impact on empowerment and objectification
(03:10) From early 2000s media to today's self-monetization platforms
(07:50) The evolution of pop culture and its increasingly explicit direction
(09:12) Tracing the cultural roots of today's online extremity
(13:28) The influence of the attention economy
(14:37) The rise of the manosphere and its impact
(16:29) The generational difference: navigating online life and authenticity
(20:13) Shifting attitudes toward sex work and societal acceptance
(23:29) The influence of explicit online content
(25:34) How online validation shapes our self-perception
(27:13) Authenticity and the rejection of algorithm-driven content
(30:18) The potential and pitfalls of AI in digital content and society
(34:47) The impact of AI-generated actors and content on creative industries
(36:57) The slow political response to AI and digital regulation
(38:15) The importance of nuanced conversations
(39:41) Concerns about technology's societal effects
Key takeaways:
• The Evolution of Digital Empowerment: While early-2000s entities like Girls Gone Wild commodified young women to enrich a few male executives, modern platforms like OnlyFans represent a genuine shift in financial and creative control.
• The Rise of "Honest" Pop Culture: While turn-of-the-century media used humour to mask toxic behaviours and normalise sexual assault, modern internet culture and art are arguably more explicit but far more honest, allowing women to remain in control of their own sexuality.
• Algorithmic ‘Brain Rot’: Modern digital platforms rely on attention-economy algorithms that trap creators and audiences in loops of outrage, hot takes, and hyper-fixation—transforming real human lives into content mills designed to feed the product.
• The Looming Threat of AI Scale: As AI-generated bot content and virtual figures surpass 50% of online material, individual human creators face an unsustainable battle for attention against automated systems.
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Guest links — Courtney Kocak
Website: https://www.courtneykocak.com/
Podcast: https://www.privatepartsunknown.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneykocak/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@courtneykocak
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