The Murder of James Self: When Control Turns Deadly

The Murder of James Self: When Control Turns Deadly

Author: Always True Crime February 25, 2026 Duration: 52:25

When we talk about domestic abuse, there’s a narrative people expect.

This case doesn’t fit it.

In this week’s episode of Seeing Red, we examine the murder of James Self — a man killed by his female partner after what those close to them describe as a volatile and controlling relationship.

We look at how abuse can look different when the victim is male. The warning signs that are often dismissed. The cultural blind spots that make it harder for men to be believed — or even to recognise what’s happening to them in the first place.

Domestic abuse isn’t defined by gender. It’s defined by control, fear, and escalation.
And when we fail to recognise that, people slip through the cracks.


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Every week, Mark Randell and Bethan Trueman pull up a chair to dissect the cases that leave them, and likely you, utterly confounded. Their Seeing Red podcast isn't just a recounting of facts; it's a deep, conversational dive into the true crime stories that are as intriguing as they are terrifying. What you'll hear are the details that get under your skin-the bizarre twists, the unsettling motives, and the procedural mysteries that make you question how such things happen. Mark and Bethan approach each narrative with a balanced perspective, ensuring the human elements are never lost amidst the shock. Tuning in means joining a discussion that respects the gravity of the subject while fully engaging with its complexities. For those who find themselves returning to these stories, looking for a new angle or a shared sense of disbelief, this show provides that space. The chemistry between the hosts makes even the darkest topics accessible, turning each episode into a compelling audio experience. If the standard episodes leave you wanting more, there is additional bonus content available directly through their Patreon page. At its core, this is for anyone who has ever been left speechless by a headline and wanted to understand the deeper, often red-faced-inducing story behind it.
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