Sex After Miscarriage, Grieving Lack of Intimacy, Self-Pleasure After Betrayal, and Making Love with Adult Kids in the House (Listener Questions)

Sex After Miscarriage, Grieving Lack of Intimacy, Self-Pleasure After Betrayal, and Making Love with Adult Kids in the House (Listener Questions)

Author: Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor July 17, 2026 Duration: 34:09

We answer listener questions about the struggle of having sexual intimacy after miscarriage, grieving the long lack of intimacy, whether a wife should self-pleasure after her husband's betrayal shut down sex, and how to maintain sexual intimacy with adult kids living at home.

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From the Bible

The Message Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 7:3–6: Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.

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Marriage within the Christian faith encompasses the whole person-body, spirit, and mind. Sex Chat for Christian Wives exists in that sometimes tricky, always sacred intersection. Hosted by Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor, this is a conversation among friends who believe that sexual intimacy is a profound gift meant to be explored and enjoyed within a covenant marriage. Each episode feels like pulling up a chair to a candid kitchen-table talk, where laughter and grace are always welcome. You’ll hear them draw from scripture to frame a positive, theology-based view of sex, while also diving into remarkably practical advice for everyday married life. The discussions are grounded, addressing real questions and challenges with honesty and without shame. This podcast moves beyond vague principles to offer tangible tips and perspectives that can transform a couple's intimate connection. It’s a unique space where faith, health, and sexuality are woven together, affirming that spiritual and physical intimacy are beautifully and intentionally linked. Tune in for thoughtful, compassionate dialogue that empowers wives to embrace this dimension of their relationship with freedom and joy.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Podcast Episodes
When Life Intervenes [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 22:14
We discuss health challenges, family activities, work, etc. that can disrupt sexual intimacy in your marriage and how to address it. Sponsor Better Help assesses your needs, matches you to a licensed mental health profes…
Gratitude Softens Hearts (Quickie) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 2:36
This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns on how gratitude can soften our hearts and lead to improved sexual connection.. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in mar…
Supporting Your Husband's Sexual Growth [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:07
Through the years, we've encouraged wives to grow in the area of sexual intimacy. But how can we support our husbands to mature in their understanding and experience? We discuss. Sponsor Everylove Intimates has a great D…
Does Size Matter? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 3:30
This week's quickie is from J Parker about penis size. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more ful…
What Actually Builds Sexual Confidence? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 29:13
We discuss what sexual confidence is, what influences it, and how to have the confidence God wants you to have in your marriage. Sponsor Better Help assesses your needs, matches you to a licensed mental health profession…
Peace First, Pleasure Follows [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 2:53
This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with ways to help your body feel peace in order to create space for pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marri…
The Messiness of Sex [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:24
We address the messiness of sex—what contributes to it, what's normal (and what's not), and how to deal with the mess. Sponsors Join podcast co-host J. Parker and Brad & Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries Coaching Networ…
Is Lingerie for You? (Quickie) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 2:36
This week's quickie is from J. Parker on how to make wearing lingerie work for you (whether or not your husband cares). Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in mar…
Quality Trumps Frequency (Quickie) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 2:56
This week's quickie is from J Parker about quality vs. frequency. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!
Can We Trust Sex Research?, with Dr. Jessica McCleese [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 29:52
Which sex research conclusions can we trust, especially as believers? In this second of a two-part series, we discuss sex research with licensed psychologist, college professor, and certified Christian sex therapist, Dr.…