What About Masturbation?

What About Masturbation?

Author: Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor February 18, 2025 Duration: 21:17

Today, we tackle the sensitive subject of masturbation. What does the Bible say about it? Why do Christians differ on their opinions? And how can we discern what's right for us?

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From the Bible

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 1 Timothy 3:1–5 (not about masturbation, but a passage we discussed and worth reading in context for yourself)

"Everything is permissible for me," but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me," but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12

"Everything is permissible," but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible," but not everything builds up. 1 Corinthians 10:23

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17

Resources

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Marriage within the Christian faith encompasses the whole person-body, spirit, and mind. Sex Chat for Christian Wives exists in that sometimes tricky, always sacred intersection. Hosted by Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor, this is a conversation among friends who believe that sexual intimacy is a profound gift meant to be explored and enjoyed within a covenant marriage. Each episode feels like pulling up a chair to a candid kitchen-table talk, where laughter and grace are always welcome. You’ll hear them draw from scripture to frame a positive, theology-based view of sex, while also diving into remarkably practical advice for everyday married life. The discussions are grounded, addressing real questions and challenges with honesty and without shame. This podcast moves beyond vague principles to offer tangible tips and perspectives that can transform a couple's intimate connection. It’s a unique space where faith, health, and sexuality are woven together, affirming that spiritual and physical intimacy are beautifully and intentionally linked. Tune in for thoughtful, compassionate dialogue that empowers wives to embrace this dimension of their relationship with freedom and joy.
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