Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James

Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert June 3, 2026 Duration: 48:50

In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In one word, according to Dr. Lexx: intentional.

ABOUT OUR GUEST: Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better, Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx's goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb.

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You have questions about pleasure, intimacy, and your own body that feel too complex or awkward to ask out loud. Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education is the space where those questions are not only welcomed but explored with depth and clarity. Hosted by Danielle Bezalel (DB), a sex educator with a Masters in Public Health, this podcast moves beyond basic biology to address the real, often unspoken, aspects of our sexual lives. Each episode is built on a foundation of credible research and compassionate insight, dismantling the myths and shame that so often accompany these topics. You’ll hear DB in conversation with leading experts, therapists, and researchers, translating their knowledge into practical advice you can actually use. Whether it’s navigating communication with a partner, understanding your own desires more fully, or simply seeking a more confident and joyful connection to your sexuality, this series provides a trustworthy guide. The tone is direct, inclusive, and refreshingly free of judgment, meeting you exactly where you are in your personal journey. Tune in for a re-education that focuses not on what’s wrong, but on what’s possible for a more fulfilling and informed intimate life.
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