The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza

The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert December 3, 2025 Duration: 55:10

People with disabilities can be hot! People with disabilities can be sexy! And people with disabilities DESERVE PLEASURE! In this episode, we breakdown disability and pleasure with the amazing Andrew Gurza -- and their conversation with DB takes some twists and turns that are so real, they're going to strike a chord whether or not you're disabled yourself. And don't forget: anyone can become disabled. You never know if or when this conversation might hit even closer to home.

GUEST DETAILS

Andrew Gurza is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant and author of the book, Notes From a Queer Cripple: How to Cultivate Queer Disabled Joy (and be hot while doing it!). Andrew uses they/he pronouns and identifies proudly as severely disabled. He was the subject of an award winning National Film Board of Canada Documentary "Picture This". Andrew has guested on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage's Savage Love. They have spoken all over the world on sex, disability and what it means to be a Queer Cripple. They were also a Production Consultant and Actor on the Queer As Folk reboot in 2022.

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You have questions about pleasure, intimacy, and your own body that feel too complex or awkward to ask out loud. Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education is the space where those questions are not only welcomed but explored with depth and clarity. Hosted by Danielle Bezalel (DB), a sex educator with a Masters in Public Health, this podcast moves beyond basic biology to address the real, often unspoken, aspects of our sexual lives. Each episode is built on a foundation of credible research and compassionate insight, dismantling the myths and shame that so often accompany these topics. You’ll hear DB in conversation with leading experts, therapists, and researchers, translating their knowledge into practical advice you can actually use. Whether it’s navigating communication with a partner, understanding your own desires more fully, or simply seeking a more confident and joyful connection to your sexuality, this series provides a trustworthy guide. The tone is direct, inclusive, and refreshingly free of judgment, meeting you exactly where you are in your personal journey. Tune in for a re-education that focuses not on what’s wrong, but on what’s possible for a more fulfilling and informed intimate life.
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