What Happens Inside a Consensual Master/Slave BDSM Relationship? (Between Us)

What Happens Inside a Consensual Master/Slave BDSM Relationship? (Between Us)

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert September 24, 2025 Duration: 24:25

In this episode, DB talks with TammyJo Eckhart, a BDSM activist who's here to dispel some myths about M/s, or Master/slave, relationships -- in the long-term! Don't let the title fool you; just like all BDSM discussed here at Sex Ed with DB, TammyJo talks about how not only can M/s relationships be consensual, but also caring, freeing, and therepeutic for everyone inolved.

Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day.

Guest Details

TammyJo Eckhart has been a BDSM activist, author, and educator since 1989. Her fiction work crosses genres including contemporary, fantasy, historical, horror, and science fiction. Eckhart lives as the head of her poly, omnisexual, and kinky household. Join her on Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/tammyjoeckhart) or check out her website (https://tammyjoeckhart.com/).

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You have questions about pleasure, intimacy, and your own body that feel too complex or awkward to ask out loud. Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education is the space where those questions are not only welcomed but explored with depth and clarity. Hosted by Danielle Bezalel (DB), a sex educator with a Masters in Public Health, this podcast moves beyond basic biology to address the real, often unspoken, aspects of our sexual lives. Each episode is built on a foundation of credible research and compassionate insight, dismantling the myths and shame that so often accompany these topics. You’ll hear DB in conversation with leading experts, therapists, and researchers, translating their knowledge into practical advice you can actually use. Whether it’s navigating communication with a partner, understanding your own desires more fully, or simply seeking a more confident and joyful connection to your sexuality, this series provides a trustworthy guide. The tone is direct, inclusive, and refreshingly free of judgment, meeting you exactly where you are in your personal journey. Tune in for a re-education that focuses not on what’s wrong, but on what’s possible for a more fulfilling and informed intimate life.
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