SWM 080 – Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer?

Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

The question we're answering today is:

Hi Jay,

I have a question for you / your podcast.

So my husband and I have been married for about 8 months now. It seems like every time he gives me oral sex, I end up orgasming within just a few minutes. Now, as great as orgasming is, I feel like after I orgasm so quickly, I am not as stimulated by penetration. Also, I really enjoy oral sex and I wish the experience could last longer. My husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. But before I was following Christ and before I met my husband, I was sexually active, including oral sex, and this never happened. So my questions are: 1) is this normal? is "premature ejaculation" a thing in women? 2) are there any ways to fix this and/or last longer? and 3) in women, if you orgasm once, is there a "come down" period? How is it possible to have multiple orgasms in one "sex session"?

Sorry for all of the questions! I still feel like we are so new to having sex and we have a lot to learn. I appreciate any and all input. Thanks!

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Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• How to make it easier to orgasm during sex
• Making it easier to orgasm - a guide for Christian wives
• Introduction to talking dirty
• Oral sex survey
• Christians, anal sex and anal play
• Responsive desire vs. spontaneous desire
• Limon by Minna (use coupon code UIBLACKFRIDAY for $50 off)

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