SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?

What is feeling naughty? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Here's the question I'm answering:

Hi Jay,

Just a general question, what is the feeling of "feeling naughty"? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply "different" as "naughty" as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious for your thoughts. But as a little context that got me thinking - my wife and I had a night in a hotel recently to celebrate our anniversary (which was actually 6 months ago, better late than never). As a treat and for fun, I bought her some lingerie that had a hole in the crotch area. It was very sexy and she loved them and we made love while she wore them. To which she exclaimed, "It feels so naughty!"…which I had to agree with, but I’d probably describe more like lots of "fun" whether naughtiness was an element or not. Thanks for your good work! 

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Why marriage ruins sex
• Our Sexploration List
• Sexy Coupons - show your spouse you still love them in that special way
• Introduction to Talking Dirty - if you're looking to break some taboos
• Intimacy Advent Calendar - You can still manage to do 7 days of Christmas

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