SWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more

SWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more

Author: Jay Dee - Marriage Educator May 4, 2024 Duration: 15:46

AQ - Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

It's a new month, and that means more anonymous questions. For new readers and listeners, we have an anonymous Have A Question page where you can ask all the questions you want to know the answers to but are too embarrassed to ask. Once a month, I gather up the questions and answer them in a blog post and podcast episode. These are the six I received in April of 2024.

Before we get to that, this is just a last reminder that we're running a cohort of our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course this spring. The cut-off was officially yesterday, but if you still want to jump in, you have until this Monday - the 6th of May 2024, to join. We won't wait for you, but you can easily catch up. We've got eight wives who have already signed up and are excited to start.

With that out of the way, let's answer some questions.

We are a senior couple married for 54 years who would like to add some spice to our love life. We have talked about meeting other couples for friendship and fun. We are both Christian and have fantasies about what this would be like.

Well, you don't come right out and say it, but it sounds like you're trying to get me to help you justify becoming swingers.

I'm not going to do that. I mean, I can't do that and stay faithful to the Bible.


Marriage brings together two whole people, each with their own history, beliefs, and questions, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective is a space where those often unspoken questions find thoughtful, practical answers. Hosted by Jay Dee, a Marriage Educator, these conversations move beyond simplistic advice to explore the real, sometimes messy, intersection of faith, love, and physical connection. You’ll hear discussions that treat sexuality as a integral part of a holistic marriage, touching on spiritual, emotional, and even physical health. This podcast acknowledges the unique challenges and profound beauty of building a sexually fulfilling life within a committed, covenantal relationship. It’s not about quick fixes, but about fostering deeper understanding and connection. Episodes delve into topics ranging from communication and desire to navigating differences and healing, all through a lens that values both biblical wisdom and compassionate realism. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this resource offers a grounded, hopeful perspective for couples seeking to nurture this vital aspect of their life together. Tune in for honest dialogue that aims to strengthen marriages from the inside out.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 50

Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
Podcast Episodes
SWM 153 – Sex as an Act of Worship [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 11:55
SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kic…
SWM 151 – AQ – Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling Passion [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 22:10
AQ - Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling Passion. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. We haven’t done a round up of our anonymous questions for a while. These are actually questions going all…
SWM 150 – Control, sex and marriage [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 17:32
SWM 150 - Control, sex and marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Last month, I watched a great video by Gary Thomas and his wife Lisa on how a controlling spirit can harm a marriage. It got me…
SWM 149 – My daughter’s speech – Transgenderism is a lie [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 10:10
My daughter's speech - Transgenderism is a lie. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. Today we're going to do something a little bit different. For those who have been listening for more than a year,…
SWM 147 – How do you know if you’re sexually compatible [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 0:00
SWM 147 - How do you know if you're sexually compatible? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The most common argument I hear for premarital sex is, "You need to know if you're sexually compatible befo…