EP437 - Tell Me What You Want: Tips for Talking About Sex

EP437 - Tell Me What You Want: Tips for Talking About Sex

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education May 6, 2025 Duration: 43:47

Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication. 


In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy. 


Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.


In this episode, you will hear:


·      Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex

·      How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame

·      Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities

·      Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy

·      Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection

·      How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame

·      Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication

·      Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships

·      How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life

 


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Curiosity about human sexuality is universal, yet finding grounded, evidence-based conversations can be surprisingly difficult. That’s where Sexology comes in. Hosted by clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Nazanin Moali, this weekly series moves beyond sensationalism and stigma to bring you thoughtful dialogues with leading experts, researchers, and therapists. Each episode delves into the nuanced psychology of sex, intimacy, and relationships, translating complex findings into relatable insights. You’ll hear conversations that address the questions many ponder but hesitate to voice, covering everything from desire and communication to the science of pleasure and emotional connection. Dr. Moali’s background in both couple therapy and sex education ensures these discussions are both academically rigorous and deeply practical. Rather than offering quick fixes, this podcast provides a compassionate space to understand the multifaceted nature of our sexual selves. Tuning in feels like gaining access to a candid, confidential forum where nothing is off-limits and everything is examined with respect and intellectual curiosity. For anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of personal or relational dynamics, Sexology offers a trusted, enlightening resource that demystifies the complexities of human sexuality through a scientific and therapeutic lens.
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