EP455 – Soloamory: The Ultimate Self-Love Relationship

EP455 – Soloamory: The Ultimate Self-Love Relationship

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education September 9, 2025 Duration: 44:42

Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.


In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation. 


Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. 


In this episode, you will hear:


·      Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy

·      Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory

·      How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs

·      Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics

·      Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity

·      Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity

·      The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships

·      Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love

·      The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit

·      Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth Sheff


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