EP459 - Sexual Confidence: Porn, Kink and Hypnotherapy

EP459 - Sexual Confidence: Porn, Kink and Hypnotherapy

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education October 7, 2025 Duration: 37:41

Welcome to Episode 459 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Matthew Bennett, who speaks to me about life as a porn creator, the realities of OnlyFans, and how kink skills can translate into everyday life and even the workplace.


In this conversation, Matthew opens up about his unexpected journey into adult content creation, sharing both the challenges and rewards of working on platforms like OnlyFans and JustForFans. We talk about how fetish and kink content often push against mainstream limitations, the misconceptions around creator earnings, and the importance of understanding consent and boundaries when producing explicit material.


English Leather Master (often known as ELM), also known to friends and family as Matthew, is an ICF (International Coach Federation) PCC-accredited life and executive coach and a BSCH (British Society of Clinical Hypnosis) registered hypnotherapist. He also trains individuals in both coaching and hypnosis. Matthew works extensively with LGBTQ+ and kinky communities around the world, supporting people in creating more fulfilling lives. His passion lies in helping others unlock the skills they already possess to enhance their chances of success and happiness across all areas of life.


In this episode, you will hear:


·      Matthew’s Journey Into Porn Creation

·      The Rise And Limitations Of OnlyFans

·      Why Fetish Content Pushes Against Mainstream Rules

·      Myths About How Much Money Creators Make

·      The Pros And Cons Of Porn Consumption

·      How Kinks Like Balloons And Car Pedals Find Their Audience

·      The Difference Between Studio Porn And Creator Porn

·      Why Communication Is Key To Being A Good Lover

·      Using BDSM Consent Models In The Workplace

·      Creating A Life Without Shame Around Sexuality


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Curiosity about human sexuality is universal, yet finding grounded, evidence-based conversations can be surprisingly difficult. That’s where Sexology comes in. Hosted by clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Nazanin Moali, this weekly series moves beyond sensationalism and stigma to bring you thoughtful dialogues with leading experts, researchers, and therapists. Each episode delves into the nuanced psychology of sex, intimacy, and relationships, translating complex findings into relatable insights. You’ll hear conversations that address the questions many ponder but hesitate to voice, covering everything from desire and communication to the science of pleasure and emotional connection. Dr. Moali’s background in both couple therapy and sex education ensures these discussions are both academically rigorous and deeply practical. Rather than offering quick fixes, this podcast provides a compassionate space to understand the multifaceted nature of our sexual selves. Tuning in feels like gaining access to a candid, confidential forum where nothing is off-limits and everything is examined with respect and intellectual curiosity. For anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of personal or relational dynamics, Sexology offers a trusted, enlightening resource that demystifies the complexities of human sexuality through a scientific and therapeutic lens.
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