EP483 – Purity Culture to Polyamory: How She Built a Mono-Poly Relationship

EP483 – Purity Culture to Polyamory: How She Built a Mono-Poly Relationship

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education March 24, 2026 Duration: 28:40

Welcome to Episode 483 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to have Courtney Boyer on the show. In this episode, Courtney talks to me about how she transitioned from living in a strict purity culture to living in a polyamorous lifestyle.

 

Courtney discusses her childhood in a strict religious setting where her worth and safety were closely linked to her ability to control her sexual urges. We talk about the "myth of the perfect Christian wife" and how many women in these communities feel pressured to keep up the act of sacrifice. 

 

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

·      How Purity Culture Affects How You Feel About Yourself

·      Disputing The Myth Of The Ideal Christian Wife

·      Going From Being Monogamous To Being Polyamorous

·      How To Handle The Dynamics Of A Mono-poly Relationship

·      Setting Limits In Parallel Polyamory

·      The Significance Of Representation In Non-monogamy

·      Reclaiming Joy Through Bodily Embodiment

·      Building Self-trust After Being Controlled By Religion

·      Why Women Should Date Men Who Are Older Than Them

·      Finding Your Own Reason To Open Up

 

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