EP503 - Why So Many People Secretly Want to Let Go of Control

EP503 - Why So Many People Secretly Want to Let Go of Control

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education August 11, 2026 Duration: 38:12

Welcome to Episode 503 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Midori who speaks to me about exploring kink, dominance, submission, and finding authentic ways to embrace our desires.

In this episode, I speak with Midori about why we’re seeing a rise in women getting curious about dominance and BDSM, particularly women in their 40s and beyond. We discuss how difficult cultural assumptions can open up opportunities for greater sexual self-exploration, and that it’s OK to be dominant without being mean, scary or playing a stereotypical dominatrix. 

Midori is an internationally recognized sexologist, kink educator, coach, and author. She's the founder of ForteFemme Women's Dominance Intensive, the groundbreaking program she's run for over 20 years, and the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, the first English-language book on Shibari, along with contributions to several academic volumes. She also trains therapists and wellness professionals as Curriculum Director for the Kink Informed Certification through the Sexual Health Alliance, and presents regularly at the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Through workshops and private coaching, she helps adults bring more creativity, confidence, and erotic fulfillment into their lives.


In this episode, you will hear:

  • Women Exploring Dominance Later In Life
  • Moving Beyond Traditional Sexual Roles
  • Understanding Ravishment Fantasies
  • Why Submission Can Feel Liberating
  • Exploring Erotic Humiliation Safely
  • Finding Your Dominant Archetype
  • Introducing The You Will Game
  • Communicating And Co-Creating Kink
  • Challenging Common BDSM Misconceptions
  • Finding Safe And Trustworthy Kink Resources


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