197. Cherry Fargo: A Grandmother's Courage Leads to a Survivor's Strength

197. Cherry Fargo: A Grandmother's Courage Leads to a Survivor's Strength

Author: Dave Markel July 7, 2026 Duration: 49:39
Childhood sexual abuse leaves wounds that often extend far beyond the abuse itself. It can shape a person's identity, relationships, sense of worth, and even their understanding of faith, trust, and safety. Yet, as difficult as the healing journey may be, recovery is possible. In Episode 197, Cherry Fargo shares her remarkable story of surviving years of childhood sexual abuse, emotional manipulation, and family trauma. She opens up about the pivotal role her grandmother played in protecting her, the complicated emotions surrounding her mother's response, the devastating losses she experienced later in life, and the long road that eventually led her to healing. Along the way, Cherry offers honest insight into the realities of trauma, the importance of supportive community, and the intentional work required to move beyond survival. Today, Cherry is an author, coach, and passionate advocate for survivors of childhood abuse. Her practical approach to healing encourages survivors to recognize the past without remaining trapped by it, rediscover their true identity, and move forward with purpose and hope. Whether you're a survivor yourself, love someone who is, or simply want to better understand the lifelong impact of childhood trauma, this conversation offers compassion, wisdom, and encouragement that you won't soon forget. An important side note: if you're finding value in this show and these amazing episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, follow SexualAssaultSurvivorStories on Instagram, then, please send me a note of support. I can't tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you're a victim or survivor and are ready to tell your story in order to help yourself or someone else heal, let me know, and we can start a conversation about the possibility of you being on the show. Here's my email address: dave@sasstories.com Thank you to all of you who have reached out to me already. Just provide me with a phone number where I can reach back out to you…because I like to talk to people who are interested in guesting. And please keep those emails and texts coming…I truly look forward to hearing from you! Here are some critically important links that I hope you'll take the time to explore, and where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so! One of the most critical links below that I hope you'll take advantage of is the upcoming free coaching workshop that Cherry is presenting next month! — Thank you!! Overcoming Shame, Finding Freedom: (Cherry's book, available on Amazon) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGL9TC9C Being Remade - Website https://beingremade.org Coaching: Upcoming FREE workshop Aug 12th - 15: Move Forward Challenge https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/223170 Upcoming Fall Online Group Coaching Cohort: Traumas to Transformations https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/219433 FREE 20 minute Heart to Heart Call, From One Survivor to Another https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/184458 https://1in6.org/ https://soulwisesolutions.com https://safeinharmsway.org https://sironahealing.com/ https://www.whattheydontsay.com www.arcigrey.com https://startbybelieving.org https://evawintl.org/ As mentioned, and emphasized, it's time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. Thank you for tuning in. -Dave

Hosted by Dave Markel, Sexual Assault Survivor Stories creates a necessary and nuanced space centered on personal narratives and expert understanding. Each week, this podcast shares firsthand accounts from individuals who have experienced sexual assault, offering a raw and respectful look at the journey from victim to survivor. These stories aren't just about the trauma itself; they delve into the complex path of healing, highlighting both the profound adversities faced and the hard-won victories, large and small. Listening provides a window into the emotional and psychological dynamics that define survival, moving beyond simplistic narratives to honor the full, often messy, human experience. Crucially, this isn't a resource only for those directly affected. The podcast deliberately expands the conversation to educate a broader audience. Episodes explore the principles of trauma-informed communication and break down the neuroscience of trauma and memory, explaining how these factors impact a survivor's recall and testimony. This approach fosters deeper empathy and insight, whether you're a supporter, a professional, or anyone seeking to comprehend these issues on a more informed level. By weaving together personal truth and psychological context, this podcast serves as both a sanctuary for shared experience and a vital tool for collective learning.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Sexual Assault Survivor Stories
Podcast Episodes
175. Amy Watson & HASSL: What You Allow Is What Continues [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:07
There are some episodes of this show that don't revolve around a single survivor story, but they still land just as hard—because they force us to look at ourselves. This is one of those conversations. It's not about reco…
174. Gemini: First the Assault. Then Saprea. [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 58:34
There's a distinctive aspect to this show that makes it different from most podcasts in this genre, and I consider it a privilege and honor to recognize those of you who make it that way. Sexual Assault Survivor Stories…
173. Beth: When "Normal" was Actually Rape and Sexual Assault [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:33:34
Beth is a survivor who reached out to me after realizing that memories she once believed were long buried were anything but inconsequential. As she explains, those memories began resurfacing as she engaged in EMDR—Eye Mo…
172. Erica: When a Husband's Power Became Sexual Violence [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:01:32
In this episode I sit down with Erica, a survivor whose experience exposes the devastating reality of coercive control, rape, and sexual assault within a marriage. Erica reached out to share not only what she endured, bu…
171. Dave Markel:  When Showing Up Means Slowing Down [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 7:55
Today, this episode is a brief reflection from me, recorded as a pause in the regular rhythm of the show. Rather than a guest interview, I'm speaking directly to you, my listeners, about the weight of trauma-informed wor…
166. Jason Patrick Berry: Secrets Beneath a Perfect Childhood [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:48
This week on Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, I sit down with Jason Patrick Berry, author of the brave and unflinchingly honest memoir Secrets Beneath. Jason's story is one that quietly breaks your heart and then slowly…