91. Caroline Markel and Bailie: I Count Myself Fortunate to Know Them Both!

91. Caroline Markel and Bailie: I Count Myself Fortunate to Know Them Both!

Author: Dave Markel June 26, 2024 Duration: 1:00:08
If you haven't already heard Bailie's two-part interview, Episodes 49 and 50, give them a listen—you'll hear one of the most compelling and intriguing interviews of sexual assault and rape that will hold you spell-bound and awestruck. You don't need to listen to those episodes before you listen to this one, but definitely take the time to listen to Bailie's story on those two previous episodes; you'll have a much deeper understanding of Bailie if you do. I had the very fortunate privilege of meeting Bailie through my friendship with my regular monthly guest, Caroline Markel. Caroline is the founder and CEO of Safe in Harm's Way, an organization dedicated to providing victims and survivors of rape and sexual assault with resources, encouragement, and expertise in finding their way safely out of those dangerous and harmful interpersonal violence relationships. The story is that Caroline needed a break from the daily grind of running such an onerous organization and decided to go to Napa County to recoup. It was there that she met Bailie, who at the time was the Director of Training and Technical Assistance at LGBTQ Connection of Napa and Sonoma, California. And an instant connection and indelible bond was formed between the two...and, of course, Caroline encouraged me to get to know Bailie. I called her one afternoon and, again, an instant bond was formed. (That's just the way Bailie is!!) Earlier this month Caroline made a return trip to Napa, partly to visit with Bailie. When I found out that this re-connection was occurring, I immediately asked Caroline and Bailie if they would do a dual-SASS-recording with me from Napa while Caroline was there. Unfortunately, due to schedule issues this wasn't possible…but, just this week, after Caroline had returned to her home, we were able to schedule a time when the 3 of us could connect and record an episode…and here it is. We covered so very much that to synopsize the episode would be a time burdensome endeavor. Just know that this is an episode you won't want to miss! And write to me and let me know what you're thinking about this episode, about SASS, or about anything else you care to comment about. Thank you to Caroline and Bailie for an absolutely fantastic episode! And for all the links and connections provided by both you. From Bailie, please check these out: @lgbtqnapa @queerleaderscoalition @napapride @soarcollective @rainnsurvivors bell hooks Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center https://a.co/d/0ib1HnSJ Audre Lorde Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master's House https://a.co/d/0iwVQxbT Alok @alok Beyond the Gender Binary (Pocket Change Collective) https://a.co/d/05BVYY76 Life isn't Binary Life Isn't Binary https://a.co/d/08Te1XjD LGBTQ Connection www.lgbtqconnection.org Family Acceptance Project https://familyproject.sfsu.edu And, from Caroline, please check this info out: In a world where: 40% of calls to DV hotlines go unanswered Over 300,000 people every month can't find the help they need Shelters are full, with no space for new arrivals Safe In Harm's Way has over 250 Immediate & Actionable online solutions and are the key to helping someone when they have that fear-and-sadness-fueled decision to seek help. Because if no one helps them at their most intimate moment of need, very rarely will they try again. Want to fuel our mission and be the solution for survivors who need immediate help via Safe In Harm's Way? Donate today to save lives and create family-positive impact here: https://safeinharmsway.org/donate/ And from me: https://markel-consulting.com davemarkel@gmail.com https://startbybelieving

Hosted by Dave Markel, Sexual Assault Survivor Stories creates a necessary and nuanced space centered on personal narratives and expert understanding. Each week, this podcast shares firsthand accounts from individuals who have experienced sexual assault, offering a raw and respectful look at the journey from victim to survivor. These stories aren't just about the trauma itself; they delve into the complex path of healing, highlighting both the profound adversities faced and the hard-won victories, large and small. Listening provides a window into the emotional and psychological dynamics that define survival, moving beyond simplistic narratives to honor the full, often messy, human experience. Crucially, this isn't a resource only for those directly affected. The podcast deliberately expands the conversation to educate a broader audience. Episodes explore the principles of trauma-informed communication and break down the neuroscience of trauma and memory, explaining how these factors impact a survivor's recall and testimony. This approach fosters deeper empathy and insight, whether you're a supporter, a professional, or anyone seeking to comprehend these issues on a more informed level. By weaving together personal truth and psychological context, this podcast serves as both a sanctuary for shared experience and a vital tool for collective learning.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Sexual Assault Survivor Stories
Podcast Episodes
186. Joseph Born: The Hidden Reality of Child-on-Child Harm [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:32:15
Joseph Born grew up surrounded by the raw, untamed beauty of Alaska—a childhood filled with exploration, curiosity, and the kind of freedom that most people would associate with innocence. But beneath that backdrop was s…
185. Sara Perry: This Changes How You Think About Healing [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:56
This week's episode takes us into a part of the healing conversation that doesn't get talked about nearly enough. I sit down with Sara Perry, founder of Haven Space (https://havenspacecoaching.com/) in Houston, Texas, to…
184. Emily: I Was Living My Life Like Nothing Happened [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:55
This week, Emily joins the show to share a story that has lived quietly beneath the surface while life continued to move forward around it. As a young woman navigating the early stages of adulthood, she opens up about wh…
182. Cassie Nicholas: When Help Was a Setup [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 45:53
Cassie Nicholas returns to the podcast with a story that is as urgent as it is revealing. After everything she has already survived, Cassie found herself in a situation that looked—on the surface—like support and stabili…
181. MJ: A Few Minutes That Changed Everything [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:49
In this powerful interview, MJ shares her journey through sexual assault, dissociation, and healing. We explore trauma's impact on the body and mind, the importance of support systems, and pathways to recovery. Discover…
179. Dr. Asher: Survivor-Led, System-Changing [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:01:35
Let me introduce you to this week's guest, Dr. Asher. I wanted her here on the show because she is someone whose work sits at the intersection of lived experience, rigorous research, and embodied understanding of trauma.…
178. Norma Peterson: The Power of the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:21:16
This week I sit down with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, to talk about the lasting impact of the Stacy Peterson case and the broader importance of documenting abuse when systems fail survivors.…
177. Daniel: Courage Doesn't Always Feel Brave [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:04
In this episode of Sexual Assault Survivor Stories, I sit down with Daniel—a listener who became a storyteller. Like many of the voices you hear on this podcast, Daniel didn't come to the microphone because he was certai…