The 4 Ways You Override Yourself Around People

The 4 Ways You Override Yourself Around People

Author: Dr. Aziz Gazipura, Psychologist and Author May 13, 2026 Duration: 15:08

You knew exactly what you wanted to say. Then something softer came out instead. There's a specific reason this keeps happening, and it isn't a confidence problem.

In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down the four ways people override themselves under social pressure: the Diplomat, the Avoider, the Fixer, and the Performer. Most people call this people-pleasing, being too nice, or social anxiety. Those labels aren't wrong. They just don't explain why it keeps happening for decades, even after reading the books and trying the techniques.

This episode covers:

  • What triggers each of the four patterns
  • Why this isn't a confidence problem
  • The equation running underneath all four (disapproval equals danger) and what it means for actual change
  • How each pattern shows up in work, relationships, and daily life

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That quiet voice of hesitation before a meeting or the knot in your stomach at a party isn't just a minor nuisance-it's a barrier to the life you want. Shrink For The Shy Guy is a conversation with Dr. Aziz, a coach and author who specializes in turning social anxiety into genuine confidence. This isn't about generic self-help platitudes; it's a practical resource for anyone who feels held back by fear in situations that matter, whether that's a crucial career presentation, a difficult sales call, or simply trying to connect on a date. Each episode digs into the real psychological mechanics behind self-doubt, offering actionable strategies you can use immediately. You'll hear from Dr. Aziz as he breaks down common struggles, from networking events that feel like minefields to the internal chatter that undermines business meetings. The focus is on sustainable change, moving beyond quick fixes to build a foundational sense of assurance that applies to your career, relationships, and personal health. Tuning into this podcast feels like getting direct, compassionate coaching from an expert who genuinely understands the gap between where you are and where you want to be. It’s for those ready to move past just coping and start engaging with the world from a place of strength.
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