Why You Get Anxious Before Interviews, Dates, and Presentations (It's Not What You Think)

Why You Get Anxious Before Interviews, Dates, and Presentations (It's Not What You Think)

Author: Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach March 31, 2026 Duration: 14:23

What do job interviews, first dates, presentations, and social gatherings all have in common? They're all situations where someone could disapprove of you — and your nervous system knows it.

In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down the single pattern running underneath all social anxiety and performance anxiety: the fear of disapproval. He explains why your brain fills uncertainty with doom predictions, why those predictions feel so convincing, and why the solution isn't about becoming more impressive — it's about building your capacity to be in the unknown.

This episode is part of a series of new discoveries Dr. Aziz has been making about how our relationship with approval shapes everything — our confidence, our conversations, our careers, and our relationships. More on that in the coming episodes.


That quiet voice of hesitation before a meeting or the knot in your stomach at a party isn't just a minor nuisance-it's a barrier to the life you want. Shrink For The Shy Guy is a conversation with Dr. Aziz, a coach and author who specializes in turning social anxiety into genuine confidence. This isn't about generic self-help platitudes; it's a practical resource for anyone who feels held back by fear in situations that matter, whether that's a crucial career presentation, a difficult sales call, or simply trying to connect on a date. Each episode digs into the real psychological mechanics behind self-doubt, offering actionable strategies you can use immediately. You'll hear from Dr. Aziz as he breaks down common struggles, from networking events that feel like minefields to the internal chatter that undermines business meetings. The focus is on sustainable change, moving beyond quick fixes to build a foundational sense of assurance that applies to your career, relationships, and personal health. Tuning into this podcast feels like getting direct, compassionate coaching from an expert who genuinely understands the gap between where you are and where you want to be. It’s for those ready to move past just coping and start engaging with the world from a place of strength.
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