OVERCOME YOUR DOUBT - I dont believe in fate… I believe you create your own destiny. I believe in something called the path of least resistance. Which is a scientific term for associated with things like electricity and biology. Although I have extrapolated it out to a belief system I use in life. More of a philosophy.
Environmental factors may influence you, but its always your choice. For example injuries or lack of money, may push you into the position where the only “smart” thing to do is quit soccer… but thats not fate, thats you choosing an option from the hand you have been given. You always have the choice to go agaisnt the grain.. for your personal situation it may be dumb to go agaisnt the grain, but it doesn’t its fate or predestined, it just means your mean choosing the path of least resistance, and it may be with good reason too.
Often going for your goal and dreams is NOT the path of least resistance. Thus there is such reward, because if everyone could do it, it wouldn’t be something worth rewarding for, clubs wouldn’t pay such good money for players if theres unlimited options to fill an 11 a side team.
To go for a dream, you’re using will power, discipline, strategies of motivation etc. its not something you can breeze through without. discomfort. Thus eventually one may grow tired of this, of not seeing results, of only seeing obstacles and adversity, and thus they decide to go down the path of least restistance aka not pursuing your dreams, and instead getting a job or what ever,
I personally think that believing that I don’t have control of their own life, and its up to a higher power, god, the universe etc, I believe this is dispowering to me, Its leaving my life in luck, or the lottery of if the high power believes we are deserving of greatness and becoming a professional soccer player.
In saying that, I believe in what ever belief system gets you result, I’m down for. If your beliefs keep you from becoming down and depressed when you’re going the hardship and advsersity. Than thats amazing. So Im far from saying im against believing in a higher power. Infact i do believe in god, or the universe or how ever you want to call it. But my belief system is that I control my life, not anything else.
Rather I personally like to believe I can create the life I want, the life I deserve simply through taking the correct actions. Following in the foot steps of people who have done it. Just like cooking using a recipe, If I follow the steps I will get the same outcome as the person who created the recipe in the first place.
Everyone has different paths of least resistance: thats as close as fate or destiny I can agree and believe in. People are born with different paths of least resistance. People are born with different physical advantages or disabilities, people are born into different social or economical statuses, people are born into different cultures where different sports are the norm. So for example, an 7ft American who was born in area where basketball was the norm, even if he didn’t like basketball, his path of least resistance may be basketball rather than even getting a normal job..
Or take an Italian, in a. Country where soccer is everything, soccer schools from the age of 4 with a soccer system to develop players is going to have an easier path than a player in America where soccer isn’t the go to sport. But as evidence shows there are world class Americans, and there are a whole of Italians who never made it professional.
Which clearly shows that, regardless of your path and how much resistance it has. If someone else has done it the same or worse position than you, then most deffinitely you can do it too. You simply have to follow the correct steps, and don’t leave it up to someone or something else. You are in control of your reality.
To continue on with my explanation of the path of least resistance. You may be going through obstacles and adversity, and depending on your belief system you may think, okay Im destined not to be a soccer player, or with another belief system you may think okay, my path has a lot of resistance, but that doesn’t mean its not a path I can’t go down, I can go through this path, its just going to be tougher than what some other people have…
then you have to ask your self, do you want to go down a path which has so much resistance, or would you be happier going down a path of least resistance, and I mean really ask yourself, even if you love soccer so much, but you seem to be coming agasint obstacle after obstacle, set back after setback, you have to ask yourself what will give you a happy and fulfilling life, cause that what its all about. If your path has so much resistance that It means, losing friends, missing out on parties and fun, if it means hitting your head against a metaphorical Wall again and again… Work out if you want to keep going through it.
But I urge you not to think its not in your control. Obstacles don’t mean you can’t get success, obstacles doesn’t mean you are not destined for your goals, and that your goals go against your fate. All it simply means is that its going to be hard. And maybe way too hard that it isn’t possible for you, because you have to look after siblings or parents are pressuring you to get high education. As I said there will be environmental and social pressure. But it is always your choice to decide what makes sense for you. And it may make complete sense to go down the path of least resistance, you may be happier and more fulfilled in the path of least resistance, I cant tell, predict or decide that for you.
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