Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don’t have a husband or kids doesn’t mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you’re free to live exactly how you want.
In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy’s fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn’t about slowing down—it’s about embracing what you truly want.
We dive into why she chooses to date younger men, why marriage and kids were never part of her plan, and how we can all redefine intimacy, confidence, and pleasure as we age. Plus, Cindy shares how MakeLoveNotPorn is changing the conversation around real-world sex and helping people feel seen, accepted, and empowered. She also dives deep into how MakeLoveNotPorn differs from OnlyFans, the unique challenges they face—especially the uphill battle of advertising bans on social media.
It’s time to step into a world where sex is shame-free, open, and truly fulfilling. Let’s dive in!
Timestamps:
- (00:00) Introduction to Cindy Gallop
- (01:09) No husband, no kids: Ultimate self-care routine
- (02:27) Dating younger men—casually, unapologetically, and on her own terms
- (02:32) The problem with society’s lack of role models for aging women
- (03:07) Body image, menopause, and post-menopausal pride
- (03:52) Why she proudly shouts her age (65!) and the power of #SayYourAge
- (04:19) MakeLoveNotPorn: The platform changing how we talk about real-world sex
- (05:27) The lube: Why there’s no such thing as “too much”
- (06:36) Cindy on finding the confidence to date younger men
- (07:14) The glaring double standard: Older men vs. older women in dating
- (08:47) Cindy’s revelation: Being every young guy’s fantasy
- (09:25) The rise of niche dating sites—and how to find the right one for you
- (13:29) What MakeLoveNotPorn celebrates
- (14:39) How MakeLoveNotPorn stands apart from ethical porn
- (16:56) The Social Sex Revolution: Why we need to talk about real sex
- (19:40) OnlyFans vs. MakeLoveNotPorn: The key differences
- (21:15) Challenges in Promoting MakeLoveNotPorn: Censorship, stigma, and funding struggles
- (23:30) What makes someone sexy?
- (24:40) Join and subscribe to MakeLoveNotPorn and Wefunder campaign
- (25:52) Cindy’s definition of sex
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
About the Guest:
Cindy Gallop is a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn—the "real-world sex" platform challenging porn’s unrealistic narratives. A vocal advocate for aging, sexuality, and gender equality, Cindy’s work has been featured in TED Talks, The New York Times, and beyond.
You can find Cindy Gallop here:
MakeLoveNotPorn Website: https://makelovenotporn.tv/
Wefunder Equity Crowdfunding Campaign: https://wefunder.com/makelovenotporn
Watch Cindy’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc
Website: https://cindygallop.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindygallop/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/?hl=en
X: https://x.com/cindygallop
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.
