In this episode, I dive deep into the often-overlooked world of delayed ejaculation—a condition that affects up to 10% of men and becomes more common with age. I break down the physical and psychological causes, including hormone shifts, nerve damage, porn habits, and emotional trauma. With candid reflections from my own experience with orgasmia, I offer a compassionate and practical guide for men (and their partners) to reclaim pleasure, confidence, and connection.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 – Introduction: Why This Topic Matters
- 01:20 – My Personal Journey with Orgasmia
- 03:00 – What Is Delayed Ejaculation?
- 04:15 – Defining “Normal” Timing vs. Clinical Diagnosis
- 05:30 – How Common Is It? (Stats + Aging Impact)
- 06:30 – Physical Causes: Surgery, Alcohol, Nerve Damage, Testosterone
- 09:15 – Psychological Causes: Shame, Anxiety, Trauma, Porn Habits
- 12:45 – The Impact on Relationships + Emotional Disconnect
- 14:10 – Key Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pattern
- 16:00 – How to Start Treating Delayed Ejaculation
- 18:30 – Adjusting M@sterbati*n, Increasing Sensitivity, Using Lube
- 20:00 – When to Seek Therapy or Medical Help
- 21:30 – Final Words: You’re Not Broken—You Can Heal
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.
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