Everything You Were Taught About the Clitoris Is Wrong | Ep. 142

Everything You Were Taught About the Clitoris Is Wrong | Ep. 142

Author: Karen Bigman January 6, 2026 Duration: 40:22

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In this episode, I sit down with Ana Ornelas to dismantle everything we were taught about pleasure. We talk clitoracy, real anatomy, and why penetration alone leaves most women disconnected from orgasm. We break down the clitoris as a full internal organ, explain why arousal time matters, and expose the myth of the vaginal orgasm. This conversation closes the pleasure gap with facts, empathy, and practical guidance you can use immediately.

In This Episode:

00:00 Welcome and why clitoracy matters

02:45 What clitoracy really means

06:10 The clitoris versus the penis anatomy truth

10:05 Why position changes pleasure

14:20 Clitoral erections and arousal timing

18:30 The vaginal orgasm myth explained

22:40 Real orgasm statistics women never hear

26:55 Context, stress, and desire

30:40 How to learn what turns you on

34:20 Communicating pleasure with a partner

37:20 Closing the pleasure gap and final takeaways

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.


This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.


Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast



About the Guest:

Ana Ornelas, known as Pimenta Cítrica, is a Brazilian erotic writer, s//x educator, and pleasure activist based in Berlin. She wrote her first erotic story at twelve and never stopped. Growing up queer in Brazil, she absorbed deep s//xual shame. That experience shaped her mission. She chose to become the voice she needed earlier in life.

Since relocating to Berlin in 2016, she has created s//x positive content across different formats, including scripts, audio and video for different brands, workshops, live experiences and public speaking.

She co created I Am The Clitoris, a project dedicated to clitoral anatomy, pleasure, and education. Her work now extends into advocacy, where she challenges censorship and pushes s//xual wellness into the public conversation.

Connect with Ana Ornelas :

Website: https://pimentacitrica.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pimentacitrica

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.


In a culture that often whispers about aging and ignores the sexuality of older adults, Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 speaks in a clear, confident voice. Hosted by certified sex educator and coach Karen Bigman, this podcast transforms hushed conversations into open, honest dialogue. Karen’s straightforward and candid approach dismantles the stigma surrounding midlife intimacy, creating a vital space for education and support. Each episode explores the intricate, real-life experiences of dating, relationships, and physical connection after fifty. You’ll hear practical insights on navigating sex post-divorce, the triumphs of rediscovering desire, and the unique challenges that come with these transformative years. This isn’t abstract theory; it’s grounded conversation about the evolving landscape of pleasure, health, and partnership. By diving deep into topics often left unspoken, the show provides both reassurance and actionable guidance. Whether you’re seeking to understand your own journey or to simply listen and learn, this podcast meets you with expertise and empathy. Karen Bigman ensures every discussion moves from societal silence toward personal truth, making Taboo to Truth an essential listen for anyone redefining what life and intimacy mean in the second half.
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