Masturbation is not a throwaway habit. It is training and you are probably doing it wrong. In this episode, I sit with sexologist and Love Lab host Kevin Anthony to show men how mindful self-pleasure upgrades stamina, sensitivity, and confidence in and out of the bedroom.
We cover the biggest mistakes men make, including rushing to the finish and outsourcing arousal to porn. Kevin walks through the arousal scale, edging, and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. We dig into delayed ejaculation, the “death grip,” desensitization, and how to resensitize your body. We also break down strokers, pumps, condoms, and when meds help or hinder. You get a practical framework to slow down, feel more, and choose when to ejaculate.
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
02:05 Why a masturbation practice matters for men
05:12 How habits train performance in bed
06:48 The speed problem and the orgasm gap
08:58 Porn use. Hyper-stimulation and desensitization
12:52 Delayed ejaculation and loss of sensation
15:16 The “death grip.” Injury and numbness risks
17:48 Edging, tantra, and Taoist ejaculation frequency
21:22 Orgasm vs ejaculation. Physiology and separation
24:58 Mindful masturbation. Arousal scale and pacing
28:12 Step-by-step: build, back off, repeat, choose the finish
29:56 Tools and strokers. When they help. When they hurt
32:04 Pumps vs meds. Health-first strategy and retention rings
34:56 Mindset shift. Slow down, train, feel more
36:22 Lightning round: definition of sex, best multi-orgasmic run, beach fantasy
38:10 Wrap-up.
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
About the Guest:
Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!
He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel “Kevin Anthony & Céline Remy“, and the co-creator of the online course series “Power and Mastery”; which is a complete Men’s S//xual Mastery Training to develop a man’s stamina, boost confidence, and enhance his s//xual abilities.
Connect with Kevin Anthony:
Website: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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