In this unfiltered conversation, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship coach Caitlin V. to explore the truths about male performance anxiety, orgasms, slowing down intimacy, and why men might be misunderstanding their own desires — and women’s. We discuss how societal pressures create performance myths, the importance of pacing and communication in the bedroom, why curiosity beats confidence, and the misconceptions around anal play, identity, and masculinity. Plus, Caitlin shares her wildest orgasm story and the fantasy she hasn’t tried… yet.
👉 This episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules of connection, pleasure, and redefining masculinity — with humor, honesty, and heart.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction
02:20 – Meet Caitlin V.: Sex Coach & Performance Expert
04:10 – Why Men Burn Out in Bed (And How to Fix It)
07:45 – The Art of Titration & Variation in Intimacy
11:30 – Slowing Down & Setting Playful Boundaries
16:00 – How to Regulate Your Nervous System Together
19:45 – The Biggest Mistakes Men Make with Women
25:30 – Delayed Ejaculation & Overstimulation Explained
33:50 – Porn, Edging & Why It Can Backfire
38:40 – Anal Play, Masculinity & The Butt Taboo
47:00 – Caitlin’s Definition of Sex
49:20 – The Best Orgasm Story (Yes, It’s That Good)
54:00 – The Fantasy She Still Wants to Try
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Caitlin V is a renowned sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation. A former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she skyrocketed to internet fame after a viral video on female pleasure. Today, she works with clients worldwide to resolve mismatched libidos, enhance sexual confidence, and create more satisfying intimate experiences. Blending personal experience with evidence-based science, Caitlin is on a mission to foster a sex-positive world where pleasure is prioritized. With millions of views on YouTube and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her expertise is now reaching an even wider audience with her upcoming TV show, Good Sex, premiering on Discovery+ and Max.
Come As You Want online course:
https://caitlinvneal.com/come-when-you-want-2/
Connect with Caitlin V:
Website: https://caitlinvneal.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitlinvictoriousx
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CaitlinV
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.
