In this episode, I'm joined by comedian, writer, and viral content creator Matt Hyams, whose hilariously honest videos about life with a perimenopausal wife have racked up millions of views. What started as a way to process his own reality quickly became a platform that has resonated with husbands and wives everywhere.
Matt opens up about the moment he realized his marriage wasn't falling apart — it was hormones. He shares how IVF gave him a surprising frame of reference for perimenopause rage, why he walks a delicate line between validating his wife and not setting a precedent he'll regret, and what it's actually like to work from home with the woman who is also your boss.
We talk about role reversals, the mental load, hormone therapy, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and the surprising ways humor can — and can't — save you in the bedroom. Matt also shares the practical advice he now gives other men who message him completely lost. Spoiler: it starts with boiling eggs before you're asked.
This is the conversation every couple navigating perimenopause together needs to hear.
In this episode:
00:00 The Smell Test: A Perimenopause Comedy Intro
01:30 Meet Matt Hyams: The Husband Who Went Viral
02:50 How's the Marriage Actually Holding Up?
05:00 IVF, Rage, and That Familiar Feeling
06:45 Do Men Even Talk to Each Other About This?
08:15 How the Word Perimenopause Entered His House
10:15 The Holiday Blowup That Changed Everything
13:15 She Said She Was Done — Then Forgot She Said It
15:45 Hormone Therapy: She's on the Patch
17:30 How Men vs. Women React to His Content
18:45 Role Reversal: She's the Breadwinner
21:45 Working with Your Wife and Disappointing Her Twice
23:30 Did Going Viral Actually Make Things Better?
25:00 Humor in the Bedroom: Where It Helps and Where It Doesn't
27:15 Keeping It Spicy After 13 Years
28:45 The Advice Every Man Needs When Perimenopause Hits
Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
About The Guest:
Matt is a comedian, comedy writer, and husband to a perimenopausal wife.He's the winner of Stage32's 4th Annual TV Comedy ScreenwritingCompetition; he's performed in stand up festivals around the country; and his satire writing has appeared in McSweeney's (and some sites you've never heard of).
Connect with Matt Hyam:
Website: https://www.matthyams.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthyams
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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