Why Women Fake It: The Orgasm Gap & What To Do with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 1

Why Women Fake It: The Orgasm Gap & What To Do with Dr. Laurie Mintz | Ep. 98 Part 1

Author: Karen Bigman June 10, 2025 Duration: 18:47

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Laurie Mintz—author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex—to debunk the most harmful lies women are told about pleasure. From the myth of orgasm through penetration to the overlooked power of the clitoris, this conversation covers the real truth behind the so-called "pleasure gap." Get ready for a candid, empowering anatomy lesson, personal revelations, and a fresh take on vibrators, vulvas, and voice. This is Part 1 of a must-hear two-part series.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome & Guest Intro: Dr. Laurie Mintz

01:26 - The #1 Lie Women Are Told About Pleasure

03:44 - Why Penetration Alone Doesn’t Cut It

06:10 - Busting the Wetness Myth: Lube is Your Friend

09:18 - The Orgasm Gap Explained

13:12 - Hookups vs. Relationships: The Numbers Don’t Lie

16:33 - What Lesbian & Solo Sex Teach Us About Female Pleasure

18:57 - Vulva vs. Vagina: Why Language Matters

22:19 - Anatomy of the Clitoris (and Why You’ve Never Been Taught This)

26:07 - Where Female Pleasure Really Lives

29:32 - The G-Spot Debate: Magic Spot or Misdirection?

33:11 - Why Guys Need to Ask, Not Assume

35:49 - Karen’s First Vibrator: A Game-Changing Moment

38:41 - Vibrators Are Not Replacements, They’re Tools

42:14 - Wrap Up & What’s Coming in Part 2

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.


This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.


Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast



About the Guest: 

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 60 scholarly works and authored two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz is a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology.  In 2023, she was named one of Forbes “50 over 50” women innovators. 

Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz:

Links: https://linktr.ee/DrLaurieMintz

Book: ‘Becoming Clitorate’ https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz


Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!


In a culture that often whispers about aging and ignores the sexuality of older adults, Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 speaks in a clear, confident voice. Hosted by certified sex educator and coach Karen Bigman, this podcast transforms hushed conversations into open, honest dialogue. Karen’s straightforward and candid approach dismantles the stigma surrounding midlife intimacy, creating a vital space for education and support. Each episode explores the intricate, real-life experiences of dating, relationships, and physical connection after fifty. You’ll hear practical insights on navigating sex post-divorce, the triumphs of rediscovering desire, and the unique challenges that come with these transformative years. This isn’t abstract theory; it’s grounded conversation about the evolving landscape of pleasure, health, and partnership. By diving deep into topics often left unspoken, the show provides both reassurance and actionable guidance. Whether you’re seeking to understand your own journey or to simply listen and learn, this podcast meets you with expertise and empathy. Karen Bigman ensures every discussion moves from societal silence toward personal truth, making Taboo to Truth an essential listen for anyone redefining what life and intimacy mean in the second half.
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