Episode 153: Helping older children heal from their birth with Shelley Clarke

Episode 153: Helping older children heal from their birth with Shelley Clarke

Author: Marion Rose, PhD. October 9, 2023 Duration: 1:22:17
In this episode, Shelley Clarke returns to the podcast. Shelley is an Aware Parenting instructor, Hand in Hand Instructor, Marion Method Mentor and CranioSacral Therapist. Shelley was on the podcast in episode 146, talking about helping babies to heal from their birth. We talk about trusting that older children can heal from their birth experience and seeing through a different lens so we can recognise that this is what they are doing or trying to do. Shelley offers lots of examples of tangible ways you can see that your child is aiming to heal from their birth and what you can do as a parent to support and facilitate that process. We share about healing through crying and raging, and healing through attachment play. We discuss what a difference it makes both to children and their lives and to us as parents when we understand this information and are able to put it into practice. Shelly explains how important it is to have our own emotional support to be able to be with children in these ways, and we offer examples of how mothers healing from their birthing experiences often coincide with children healing from their birth. Shelley has a 3 hour workshop coming up for people who would like to understand this more deeply and have personalised support in helping their child heal from their birth. It's on Sunday 31st October from 2pm-5pm AEST. The link is here: https://shelleyclarke.newzenler.com/courses/birthtrauma YouYou can find Shelley and her work at: https://www.shelleyclarke.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/_shelleyclarke_/ and https://www.facebook.com/shelleyclarkemindbodyparenting Her podcast is The Mind-Body Parenting Podcast.

Marion Rose, PhD. hosts The Aware Parenting Podcast, drawing from her role as a level two instructor and regional coordinator for Australia and New Zealand within this philosophy. The foundation of her discussions is Aware Parenting, an approach developed by Aletha Solter, PhD. Rather than offering quick fixes or rigid rules, this podcast delves into the nuanced and often emotional landscape of raising children-and ourselves. Each episode considers the practical and psychological aspects of family life, from navigating daily challenges to understanding the deeper patterns that influence our reactions. You’ll hear explorations on how to support children’s emotional expression, build trusting relationships, and approach discipline from a place of connection. The concept of reparenting-the work we do to heal our own childhood experiences-is woven throughout, recognizing how our past shapes our present parenting. Marion’s perspective provides a compassionate framework for anyone looking to move beyond autopilot reactions and cultivate more awareness in their family dynamics. Tuning into this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a knowledgeable guide, one that respects the complexity of both the child’s and the parent’s inner world.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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