Episode 206: It really is possible to get free from guilt!

Episode 206: It really is possible to get free from guilt!

Author: Marion Rose, PhD. December 4, 2024 Duration: 46:42
It really is possible to get free from guilt! I'd love to emphasise again that this is NOT Aware Parenting. This reparenting series is based on The Marion Method. I'm so grateful to Marshall Rosenberg, who created Nonviolent Communication. It was from him, back in 2002, when my daughter was 9 months old, that I learnt about the true origin of guilt, and how it is simply a form of cultural conditioning. It's not an innate feeling. I also borrowed the term 'Domination Culture' from him. He in turn borrowed it from Walter Wink. I added 'Disconnected' to it, i.e. 'Disconnected Domination Culture', to emphasise that disconnection needs to happen in order for domination to happen. In contrast, in The Marion Method, I see our true nature as Love and Will - in other words, we are LOVE: deeply interconnected with all that is, and WILL: deeply powerful and connected with the power of Life, particularly through our yeses and noes. So, back to guilt! In this episode, I talk about how guilt is related to both Love--Hurts and Will-Hurts. Guilt has two functions: to coerce us into doing things, and to lead to uncomfortable feelings if we don't act as we think we 'should'. The first is related to will. The second to love. In comparison, with The Marion Method, we can transform self-coercion into acting from willingness, or being unwilling to do something. And we can transform the pain of self-judgment to deep self-compassion. Getting free from guilt is so life-changing, in ways that I explain in more depth. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/ The Get Free From Guilt Course is in a Facebook group and is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/ You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Marion Rose, PhD. hosts The Aware Parenting Podcast, drawing from her role as a level two instructor and regional coordinator for Australia and New Zealand within this philosophy. The foundation of her discussions is Aware Parenting, an approach developed by Aletha Solter, PhD. Rather than offering quick fixes or rigid rules, this podcast delves into the nuanced and often emotional landscape of raising children-and ourselves. Each episode considers the practical and psychological aspects of family life, from navigating daily challenges to understanding the deeper patterns that influence our reactions. You’ll hear explorations on how to support children’s emotional expression, build trusting relationships, and approach discipline from a place of connection. The concept of reparenting-the work we do to heal our own childhood experiences-is woven throughout, recognizing how our past shapes our present parenting. Marion’s perspective provides a compassionate framework for anyone looking to move beyond autopilot reactions and cultivate more awareness in their family dynamics. Tuning into this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a knowledgeable guide, one that respects the complexity of both the child’s and the parent’s inner world.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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