{RERECORD} But....What about a Consequence?!

{RERECORD} But....What about a Consequence?!

Author: Robyn Gobbel February 27, 2026 Duration: 48:31
This episode is an update and re-record of episode 56 Consequences. Punishments. Limits. Boundaries. These words don't mean the same thing but we often use them interchangeably. In this episode, we get clear on what exactly is a consequence versus a punishment versus a boundary. And how parenting through the lens of regulation, connection, and felt-safety is absolutely not boundary-less or permissive parenting. It's a way of looking at our kids and asking "What does my child need for the...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
EP 246: Helping Kids Tolerate Shame and Talk about Mistakes [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:33
Ever notice how some kids just cannot talk about hard things- especially if it’s about their own mistakes or ‘bad’ behavior? Maybe they melt down the second you bring it up… or shut down completely. Let’s unpack what’s r…
EP 245: Can't Wait!!! Frustration Tolerance and Delayed Gratification [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:58
Does your child get stuck in “buy me, buy me, buy me!” mode? Or maybe they melt down when they can’t have what they want right now? I know it seems selfish, manipulative, or even bratty- but we want to put on our x-ray v…
EP 244: When Watchdogs are Volcanoes: Activation below the Surface [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:55
Is your child suddenly quiet… but you can feel something bubbling under the surface? They aren’t yelling, running, or arguing like usual- but you can tell their system is still fired up and on high alert. Today, we’re ta…
{REPLAY} Grief in Parenting a Child with a VNS [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:08
If you're parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, grief is an ever-present companion, whether we acknowledge grief or not. The holiday season often stirs that grief up a bit more. Our kids need more accomodat…
EP  243: Cool, Calculated- But Still in Protection Mode [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:34
Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection. But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in control. Seems kinda li…
EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:22
You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!” Sound familiar? I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so hard, and it has ever…
EP 241: Why Some People Resist Relational Neuroscience [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:29
Sometimes you share something about the brain—like how all behavior makes sense—and people push back hard. Maybe they dismiss it. Maybe they even get mad. It can feel confusing, because once you see the truth of relation…
EP 240: Window of Tolerance- What it Is and How to Grow It [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:15
Sometimes, your kids can handle frustration or disappointment with ease, and other times the exact same challenge sends them into meltdown mode. This can feel really baffling! Why are they so inconsistent? Well, part of…
EP 239: When Your Words and Feelings Don’t Match [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:21
Have you ever smiled while you were seething inside? Or told your child “it’s fine” when it absolutely wasn’t? That mismatch (incongruent affect, we’re gonna talk psychology mumbo jumbo) isn’t just confusing. It’s a cue…