{RERECORD} But....What about a Consequence?!

{RERECORD} But....What about a Consequence?!

Author: Robyn Gobbel February 27, 2026 Duration: 48:31
This episode is an update and re-record of episode 56 Consequences. Punishments. Limits. Boundaries. These words don't mean the same thing but we often use them interchangeably. In this episode, we get clear on what exactly is a consequence versus a punishment versus a boundary. And how parenting through the lens of regulation, connection, and felt-safety is absolutely not boundary-less or permissive parenting. It's a way of looking at our kids and asking "What does my child need for the...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
REPLAY: You Aren't Doing it Wrong [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:22
You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead. In this episode, you’ll learn: That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any m…
REPLAY: Grief in Parenting [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:23
Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn: The relationship between trauma and griefWhy it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselvesTh…
REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:58
How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offerin…
REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:04
Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between. In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship! In this episode, you’ll…
REPLAY: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 42:20
In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment. In this episode, you…
REPLAY: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:09
Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation. This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concep…
EP 203: An Underwhelming Grand Reveal! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 10:11
Hey everyone, this is Alex, Robyn's son and podcast editor. To be 100% honest, we forgot to record a podcast for this week. Luckily, I have stepped in to fill the podcast void and to make my grand reveal! In this episode…
EP 202: Low-Demand Holidays [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:52
We think a lot about how to lower demands for our kids, but in this episode we’re going to talk about how we can lower demands for ourselves, specifically during the holiday season. Regardless of where you live in the wo…
EP 201: Walking on Eggshells [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:14
Living with someone with a vulnerable nervous system almost certainly leaves you feeling like you are walking on eggshells. It’s that sense of not knowing what’s going to happen next, having to tread lightly, and being c…
Ep. 200!: Gratitude for Our Watchdog & Possum Parts [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:57
In this special 200th episode, we’re exploring how to bring compassion, curiosity, and gratitude to our kids’ (and our own) “Watchdog” and “Possum” parts as overworked companions trying their best to help us survive. Wit…