Ep. 581: Loving the Idea of Someone

Ep. 581: Loving the Idea of Someone

Author: Danny-J Johnson & Jill Coleman July 2, 2025 Duration: 25:44

Have you ever loved the idea of what someone *could* be, more than the person that they actually are? There’s danger in falling in love with someone’s potential. Some people are happy to be challenged by their partners, but there’s a fine line between challenging them to reach their dreams and setting expectations that your partner can’t reach, or never wanted in the first place. You’ll find a lot more peace in letting your partner tell you who they want to be, rather than attempting to force them into being who you wish they were.


(This episode is a re-run from September 2023.)


Falling in love with someone’s potential [1:55]

Putting expectations on how your partner lives their life [3:26]

Listen to your partner’s dreams [6:15]

Can you be okay if your partner never changes? [8:55] 

More acceptance leads to greater change [12:28]

We’re always changing [14:10]

You don’t have to want all of the same things [17:38]

Don’t set expectations too high [20:23]

Encouragement pushes further than shame [23:00]


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