"Touched Out" & No Sex Drive After Baby? Here's What's Really Going On (Sex Therapist Explains) | 266

"Touched Out" & No Sex Drive After Baby? Here's What's Really Going On (Sex Therapist Explains) | 266

Author: Trish Ware, RN July 24, 2026 Duration: 34:25

If your sex life basically disappeared after baby, this one's for you, mama.

You're touched out, running on fumes, and the LAST thing on your mind is sex - but your partner keeps bringing it up, and now you're stuck in this exhausting cycle of guilt, resentment, and disconnection. Sound familiar?

This week I'm sitting down with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, a certified sex and couples therapist (and mama of two) who's spent 15 years helping couples navigate exactly this. We're getting real about why your desire disappears after baby, why "just fix the emotional connection and the sex will follow" is actually bad advice, and what's really going on when one partner pursues and the other withdraws.

We also dig into resentment, the mental load, reclaiming your body, and why accepting imperfect help from your partner might be the missing piece (pajama drama included 😂).

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why low libido after baby is so common - and it's not "just about sex"
  • The pursuer/withdrawer cycle and how to break it
  • How resentment and mental load quietly kill intimacy
  • Reclaiming your body after birth (even after trauma)
  • 3 practical ways to reconnect with your partner, starting today

This is such an honest, validating conversation - whether you're the one who's touched out or the one who feels rejected, you'll walk away with real tools (and a lot less shame).

More from Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, PhD, LMHC:

Grab her book: Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids

rebeccaeudy.com

Follow her on Instagram: @RebeccaHowardEudy

Loved this episode? Leave a review and tell me - are you the pursuer or the withdrawer?

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Helpful Timestamps:

  • 00:00 Why Sex Drive Disappears Postpartum
  • 02:43 Desire vs Connection After Baby
  • 06:05 Pursuer Withdrawer Cycle
  • 10:35 Birth Trauma and Triggers
  • 15:15 When Sex Becomes a Chore
  • 16:44 Resentment and Mental Load
  • 23:49 Accepting Imperfect Help
  • 28:09 Micro Moments Connection
  • 30:26 What Holds Desire Back
  • 33:14 Book And Where To Find

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Ever find yourself scrolling through endless forums late at night, wondering about the real, unfiltered details of childbirth that no one seems to talk about plainly? The Birth Experience with Labor Nurse Mama is here to change that. Hosted by Trish Ware, RN, this podcast draws directly from her years in the delivery room, where she’s helped bring thousands of newborns into the world. She knows the questions that keep you up at night, from the logistical-like how to effectively push or what Pitocin actually does-to the vulnerable fears about epidurals, VBACs, or those embarrassing but totally normal moments. Trish moves beyond clinical jargon to offer honest, compassionate, and evidence-based insights that feel like a conversation with a trusted friend who’s seen it all. Each episode tackles a specific aspect of pregnancy, labor, and early parenting, like navigating breastfeeding challenges or figuring out newborn care, with the goal of replacing anxiety with practical knowledge. Tuning into this podcast means getting a seasoned labor nurse’s perspective delivered with warmth and a deep understanding of what you’re going through, helping you feel more prepared and empowered for your own journey.
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