Ep. 403: Speaking Up for Yourself & Your Goals: Scripts for Advocacy in labor

Ep. 403: Speaking Up for Yourself & Your Goals: Scripts for Advocacy in labor

Author: HeHe Stewart December 3, 2025 Duration: 55:08
In this special re-air of our milestone 200th episode, we hear when HeHe celebrated ten years of supporting over 2,000 families through all kinds of birth scenarios from serene vaginal births to unexpected twists while sharing how ancestral wisdom has shaped her approach to childbirth. With warmth, humor, and that signature bold honesty, she dives into the art of trusting your body, making confident choices, and saying “no thank you” to unnecessary interventions. This episode covers everything from declining cervical checks and IVs, navigating late pregnancy ultrasounds, intermittent fetal monitoring, and pushing positions, to handling unwanted inductions, all while keeping your birth experience empowered and trauma-free. HeHe also highlights the Birth Lounge App, your go-to for evidence-based education, bite-sized guidance, and a supportive community to help you rock your pregnancy and labor with confidence. Whether this is your first listen or a welcome refresher during maternity leave, tune in and let HeHe help you claim your power in birth, because your choices, your voice, and your baby deserve it. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 06:17 The Birth Lounge App: Empowering Birth Experiences 09:06 Re-Air Announcement and Podcast Highlights 10:46 Celebrating 200 Episodes and The Birth Lounge 14:32 Navigating Conversations with Your Provider 15:45 Declining Cervical Exams: Your Rights and Options 22:25 Pushing Positions: Advocating for Your Comfort 25:38 Pushing Effectively in Labor: The Secret Sauce to Pushing  25:55 The Baby Soap Debacle: A Better Alternative Use code HEHE at coconu.com 28:03 The Importance of Organic Products During Pregnancy 29:01 Understanding Big Babies and Late Pregnancy Ultrasounds 31:18 Alternatives to Ultrasounds for Fetal Monitoring 35:51 Setting Boundaries with Healthcare Providers 38:11 Electronic Fetal Monitoring: What You Need to Know 44:17 Declining an IV During Labor 47:54 Navigating Unwanted Inductions 53:58 Empowering Your Birth Experience SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/ Want prep delivered straight to your phone?Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy The Secret Sauce to Pushing course gives you step-by-step guidance on how to push effectively — whether you have an epidural or not — so you can reduc

Hosted by birth and newborn expert HeHe Stewart, The Birth Lounge Podcast creates a thoughtful conversation around the many paths through pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood. This podcast moves beyond simplistic advice to explore the wide spectrum of normal experiences, offering evidence-based insights alongside real stories from parents. HeHe, who founded Tranquility by HeHe Maternity Concierge, guides these discussions with a blend of professional knowledge and deep empathy, aiming to demystify the process and empower your choices. Each episode serves as a gathering place-a safe space where clinical expertise meets lived experience, covering topics that span education, family dynamics, physical fitness, holistic health, and parenting young children. You’ll find a supportive resource here, one that acknowledges the variables and nuances of bringing a child into the world and navigating the postpartum chapter. Tune in for honest dialogues that honor different perspectives, providing companionship and reliable information for your own journey. The goal is to leave you feeling more prepared, less alone, and confident in your unique path through parenthood, all within the supportive community of this podcast.
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Ep. 115: Friday Free Talk, Eating + Drinking during Labor [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 22:02
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Ep. 114: How to Cloth Diaper with Bailey Bowman [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 47:12
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Ep. 113: Friday Free Talk: Pro-Plan or No Plan? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 15:01
Which team are you on? Would you believe me if I said I’m team middle? I am! I do’t think the power is so much in having a written out plan as there is in having already given thought to how you want your birth to unfold…
Ep. 112: Hormones 101 with Dr. Maggie Luther [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:38
Help people balance their hormones to get their energy back. She loves her incredible perception to help women heal & listen to your body and then respond to that message. She helps women relearn how to tap into their gu…
Ep. 111: Friday Free Talk, Alcohol in Pregnancy [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 19:54
In my endless scrolling on social media, I inevitably see an expecting parent jokingly say they wish they could have a glass of wine or a glass of beer. I never know if I should write in that it’s A-OK to have something…
Birthing in the COVID-19 Pandemic with Pediatrician, Julia Brown, MD [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:47
In this episode, HeHe is joined by Julia Brown, MD to discuss COVID-19 and newborns/infants! Julia is a local pediatrician at one of the top 5 birthing hospitals in Massachusetts and is sharing what parents need to know…
Ep. 108: Friday Free Talk: What to Expect at Triage [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 13:40
If you don’t know..you might not get to the hospital and go straight to Labor and Delivery. Sometimes you do, but sometimes you don’t. When you get to the hospital, you will most likely be asked to go to a smaller exam r…
105: Exploring Sensuality & Yoni Eggs with Ann Marie Paul [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:02:56
Today, HeHe is joined by Ann Marie Paul, a spiritual activator for divine feminine wisdom. She teaches the ancient art of Yoni Eggs which opens up a woman to her own bodies wisdom and sensuality. She is leading us today…
104: FFT: Overcoming Fear & Birth Trauma [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:16
Are you a mama that wonders if your birth is "normal"? Do you look back on your birth and think "Things didn't go... like I thought they would." Maybe you know your birth was traumatic and you're trying to navigate that…