210. Control

210. Control

Author: Hadar Shemesh April 19, 2022 Duration: 16:37

Do you find it hard to let go of control? In life? In your relationships? In your work?
You might feel like it has nothing to do with your English but it does. Because we carry this need to be in control when we speak English.

What does that look like?
– Not speaking before knowing exactly what you're going to say
– Not pronouncing words you're uncertain of their pronunciation
– Not using words you're unsure of how to use them
– Not speaking much to people you don't know
And more…

But in order to feel more freedom when speaking English, you have to give yourself room to grow and experiment and make mistakes. And that means letting go of control.
And unfortunately, many English speakers as a second language don't allow themselves that.
In this episode, I share my own experience with holding on to and letting go of the need for control, and how it relates to perfectionism. Tune in and you'll get to hear how I think you can let go a bit more and really be present in your English.

Why Perfectionism Will KILL Your Fluency: https://hadarshemesh.com/podcast/62/


Hadar Shemesh hosts The InFluency Podcast, drawing from her own journey from an intermediate English speaker to a recognized pronunciation expert and fluency coach. This isn't about abstract theory; it's a practical, empathetic guide for anyone who feels stuck in their language learning. Hadar's conversations and solo episodes delve into the tangible strategies that actually work for acquiring an American accent, building unshakeable confidence, and moving beyond textbook English to authentic, fluid speech. You'll hear a blend of mindset shifts, technical pronunciation breakdowns, and stories from a global community of learners. The focus is always on the human side of fluency-how it connects to identity, courage, and communication. Each episode of this podcast feels like a direct coaching session, offering actionable steps that address the real frustrations and aspirations of students and teachers alike. Hadar's approach demystifies the process, making the path to speaking English with assurance feel not only possible but deeply personal. Tune in for a resource that understands the journey because the host has lived it, creating a space where progress is celebrated over perfection.
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