A Guide to Self-Care When Caring for Others: A Buddhist Monk’s Story

A Guide to Self-Care When Caring for Others: A Buddhist Monk’s Story

Author: The Modern Buddhism Podcast October 31, 2024 Duration: 1:03:23

In this podcast Gen Menla, a Buddhist monk who has come from becoming a caregiver to his Mother shares what he has learnt from this. He discusses how being a full-time caregiver can be hard, but also a tremendous journey of learning and personal development. Looking at the importance of taking care of yourself, the caregiver, he explains four simple things his teacher recommends for everyone to ensure they can continue to have the energy to be of benefit to others without burnout. For those who have found themselves experiencing frustration, exhaustion, and compassion fatigue, this is an insightful podcast to help re-evaluate the importance of self-care for the care-giver. 00:00 Intro 00:16 Moving from son to son and caregiver 03:08 How caregiving helps to become closer to who you care for 07:52 Letting go of our roles and releasing the control 14:29 Accept you aren't perfect when times are hard 22:43 Finding and not letting go of your love 27:32 Don't resent your loved one 39:03 4 simple things to care for yourself:45:59:05 Your well-being is critical 47:18 Sustainable energy through examining how we rest 51:06 The energy that flows from compassion 55:02 Appreciate the joy of caregiving


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https://www.youtube.com/@modernbuddhismpodcast Book references How to Transform Your Life: https://kadampa.org/books/free-ebook-download-howtotyl Gen Menla is the Resident Teacher in Kadampa Meditation Center Texas https://www.meditationintexas.org/ The participants of these podcasts are practicing meditation according to the New Kadampa Tradition, which has over a thousand meditation centers worldwide. See more https://kadampa.org/ WANT MORE? Find a meditation center near you https://kadampa.org/nkt-center-search/?lang=en Listen to teaching clips: youtube.com/nktikbu https://open.spotify.com/show/5QPCFEyZz74nOHZbQr1B4z Subscribe to get notifications of new videos. Follow the Modern Buddhism Podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/modernbuddhismpodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernbuddhismpodcast/ TIkTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@modernbuddhismpodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7lgQNhbjMGoHOxBnjkfmK4 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/519b6d69-b6ed-46b2-ab56-ebaf59adf96e/the-modern-buddhism-podcast #modermbuddhismpodcast #buddhism #selffcare


There’s a quiet space between the rush of daily life and the ancient wisdom of Buddhist teachings, and that’s where you’ll find The Modern Buddhism Podcast. Rather than presenting philosophy as a distant theory, this series focuses on tangible, practical application. Each episode features conversations with individuals who are actively integrating meditation and Buddha’s insights into their modern routines, demonstrating how these practices foster genuine resilience and a more steady sense of contentment. The discussions are grounded in real experience, exploring how inner peace isn’t about retreating from the world but engaging with it more skillfully. You’ll hear from a variety of voices within the New Kadampa Tradition, who produce the podcast, sharing their personal journeys and the subtle shifts in perspective that come from consistent practice. This isn’t about abstract ideals; it’s about the texture of daily life-managing stress, navigating relationships, and finding moments of happiness amidst ordinary challenges. Tuning into this podcast feels like joining a thoughtful dialogue where timeless principles meet contemporary questions, offering listeners a resource for cultivating a stronger, more peaceful mind right where they are.
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