293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)

293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)

Author: Lori Sims & David Sims January 10, 2025 Duration: 59:43

Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, Lori dives into the intricate world of step-parenting and maintaining a harmonious blended family. Join her as she chats with Jessica, a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate from North Texas, who shares her journey of being a full-time stepmom to a 10-year-old while navigating the complexities of a custody battle and fostering a positive co-parenting dynamic.

Jessica emphasizes the power of not taking things personally to reduce stress and negativity and the benefits of using Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) to build trust and stability within her family. As she discusses the challenges and strategies involved in blending families, Jessica provides invaluable insights into maintaining a neutral role, fostering empathy, and creating lasting family rituals to strengthen bonds.

Tune in for practical advice on intentional parenting, self-awareness, and effective communication, all aimed at providing stability and joy in blended family dynamics. And of course, don't miss the hosts' light-hearted closing where they remind us, "Life is good when you nacho." Let's get started!

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Not Taking Things Personally
  • Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)
  • Supportive Partner in Stepparenting
  • Self-work and Personal Healing
  • Stepparent Boundaries and Support

Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:

"Joining Nacho Kids Academy was the best decision I've made for my stepfamily. I was overwhelmed, frustrated, and feeling like a complete outsider in my own home. I tried everything — and nothing seemed to work. The constant tension with my stepkids and even with my partner was taking a toll on me.

But when I found Nacho Kids Academy, everything changed.

Lori and David's guidance helped me understand that I didn't have to control everything. I learned to step back, take a breath, and let go of things that weren't my responsibility. The method taught me how to respond instead of react, and I finally started to find peace in my role as a stepparent.

I've gone from feeling resentful and exhausted to calm, confident, and in control of my emotions. My relationship with my partner has improved drastically, and my home is no longer filled with constant conflict.

The support inside the academy has been a lifeline. The resources, Q&A calls, and community have made me feel seen and understood.

If you're a stepparent struggling to find your place, stop searching — Nacho Kids Academy is what you need. It's not just a method; it's a life-changer." - Lucy R., Nacho Kids Academy Member 


Navigating the complexities of a stepfamily can feel like an isolating journey, but it doesn’t have to be. The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver offers a genuine conversation for anyone in the thick of it, hosted by Lori and David Sims. As founders of Nacho Kids and experienced blended family coaches themselves, they bring both personal insight and professional guidance to each episode. This isn’t about abstract theory; it’s real talk about the daily struggles, from co-parenting tensions and sibling dynamics to maintaining your own relationship sanity. You’ll hear from the hosts and their guests as they share candid stories of both setbacks and hard-won successes, creating a sense of community. At the heart of this podcast is the practical, life-changing framework of the Nacho Kids Method, which provides tangible strategies for saving relationships and building a peaceful home. Tune in for honest discussions that replace judgment with support, offering the tools and reassurance needed to thrive in your blended family life. Each conversation is designed to make you feel understood and equipped, turning overwhelming challenges into manageable steps forward.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
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