331: Blended: Between Two Homes ~ Summer Butler

331: Blended: Between Two Homes ~ Summer Butler

Author: Lori Sims & David Sims October 3, 2025 Duration: 1:02:48

In this episode, host Lori Sims welcomes returning guest Summer Butler to discuss her newly released resource, "Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes." Aimed primarily at preteens but helpful for children as young as seven, this workbook-style guide was born out of Summer's direct experience coaching children in blended families. She shares how the book helps kids navigate loyalty conflicts, big emotions, family transitions, and communication between homes, especially in situations where one parent doesn't consent to outside help.

Lori and Summer dive into common challenges for children split between homes, including feeling stuck in the middle, hiding their true emotions, and managing shifting boundaries and rules. Summer explains how the workbook includes journaling prompts and activities to help kids process their feelings, build connections with stepparents, and set healthy boundaries. They touch on the lasting impact loyalty binds can have, even into adulthood, and the importance of not putting children in the middle of parental conflict.

Summer also announces her upcoming children's book for younger kids, "Mallie's Two Homes and a Deer Named Darla," which will come with a stuffed deer as a comfort object to help little ones transition between homes.

Throughout the episode, Lori and Summer provide real-life examples, discuss communication tips for parents and stepparents, and emphasize the need for compassionate, child-centered approaches in blended families. Check out Summer's resources for both young children and parents seeking to foster healthier blended family dynamics.

For more information and to pre-order the new book and workbook, visit: blendedbookco.com


Navigating the complexities of a stepfamily can feel like an isolating journey, but it doesn’t have to be. The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver offers a genuine conversation for anyone in the thick of it, hosted by Lori and David Sims. As founders of Nacho Kids and experienced blended family coaches themselves, they bring both personal insight and professional guidance to each episode. This isn’t about abstract theory; it’s real talk about the daily struggles, from co-parenting tensions and sibling dynamics to maintaining your own relationship sanity. You’ll hear from the hosts and their guests as they share candid stories of both setbacks and hard-won successes, creating a sense of community. At the heart of this podcast is the practical, life-changing framework of the Nacho Kids Method, which provides tangible strategies for saving relationships and building a peaceful home. Tune in for honest discussions that replace judgment with support, offering the tools and reassurance needed to thrive in your blended family life. Each conversation is designed to make you feel understood and equipped, turning overwhelming challenges into manageable steps forward.
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