350: Your Partner Can Be The Problem

350: Your Partner Can Be The Problem

Author: Lori Sims & David Sims February 18, 2026 Duration: 52:59

Blending families isn't for the faint of heart—and losing yourself in the process is all too common. Tune in as Lori and guest Jackie Faber get real about boundaries, guilt, and reclaiming your identity in stepfamily life.

In this raw and relatable episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori welcomes former stepmom Jackie Faber to discuss what it's really like to blend families, navigate unfair expectations, and fight back against the emotional traps that so many stepfamilies fall into. Jackie shares her personal story of discovering Nacho Kids, recognizing patterns of self-abandonment, and ultimately choosing her own well-being over staying in an unhealthy relationship.

Listeners will learn:

  • How stepmoms and stepdads often lose themselves trying to "do it right" in a blended family.

  • Why resentment and guilt are so common, and how to recognize who's really responsible for family problems.

  • The difference between partner problems and parenting problems.

  • The power of boundaries, self-care, and not letting others' expectations dictate your happiness.

  • Strategies for managing "fairness," finances, and emotional labor in blended family life.

  • How to communicate your needs (and why most of us were never taught how!).

  • Eye-opening insights about stepfamily love, parental alienation, and not repeating unhealthy patterns from the past.

Whether you're in the trenches of a stepfamily or still considering blending, this candid conversation will help you find your way back to yourself.


Navigating the complexities of a stepfamily can feel like an isolating journey, but it doesn’t have to be. The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver offers a genuine conversation for anyone in the thick of it, hosted by Lori and David Sims. As founders of Nacho Kids and experienced blended family coaches themselves, they bring both personal insight and professional guidance to each episode. This isn’t about abstract theory; it’s real talk about the daily struggles, from co-parenting tensions and sibling dynamics to maintaining your own relationship sanity. You’ll hear from the hosts and their guests as they share candid stories of both setbacks and hard-won successes, creating a sense of community. At the heart of this podcast is the practical, life-changing framework of the Nacho Kids Method, which provides tangible strategies for saving relationships and building a peaceful home. Tune in for honest discussions that replace judgment with support, offering the tools and reassurance needed to thrive in your blended family life. Each conversation is designed to make you feel understood and equipped, turning overwhelming challenges into manageable steps forward.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
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