363: How Did We Get Here?

363: How Did We Get Here?

Author: Lori Sims & David Sims May 15, 2026 Duration: 1:07:22

** Disclaimer:

This episode includes discussion of addiction, overdosing, and alleged inappropriate touching between a stepparent and stepchild **

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with longtime friend Tabatha Hartman to discuss her challenging journey through grief, blending families, addiction, and parental alienation. Tabatha shares how her life changed after the loss of her ex-husband, the struggles her daughter endured, and the tough choices she faced as a mother and stepmom. The conversation delves into issues such as therapy for grieving children, navigating false allegations, maintaining boundaries, and building resilience amid chaos. Tabatha Hartman also talks about her memoir, "How Did We Get Here?", written to help others facing similar struggles. The episode offers raw, honest insight into coping with loss, healing family relationships, and the ongoing impact of addiction.

  • In this episode, we discuss:

    • Coping with the death of a co-parent and its effects on blended families

    • Parenting through grief and supporting children after loss

    • Legal battles and parental alienation within stepfamilies

    • The impact of addiction and relapse on families

    • Setting boundaries and making difficult decisions as a parent

    • The journey of repairing and rebuilding fractured parent-child relationships

    • The reality of false allegations and how to navigate them

    • Writing as a tool for processing grief and trauma

    • The ongoing effects of addiction and generational cycles

    • How open communication and resilience can help families move forward


Navigating the complexities of a stepfamily can feel like an isolating journey, but it doesn’t have to be. The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver offers a genuine conversation for anyone in the thick of it, hosted by Lori and David Sims. As founders of Nacho Kids and experienced blended family coaches themselves, they bring both personal insight and professional guidance to each episode. This isn’t about abstract theory; it’s real talk about the daily struggles, from co-parenting tensions and sibling dynamics to maintaining your own relationship sanity. You’ll hear from the hosts and their guests as they share candid stories of both setbacks and hard-won successes, creating a sense of community. At the heart of this podcast is the practical, life-changing framework of the Nacho Kids Method, which provides tangible strategies for saving relationships and building a peaceful home. Tune in for honest discussions that replace judgment with support, offering the tools and reassurance needed to thrive in your blended family life. Each conversation is designed to make you feel understood and equipped, turning overwhelming challenges into manageable steps forward.
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