103 - Not Feeling Chosen - Feeling unwanted, unseen, or not valued in childhood is so painful—let's get you healing, hunny.

103 - Not Feeling Chosen - Feeling unwanted, unseen, or not valued in childhood is so painful—let's get you healing, hunny.

Author: Remy Ramirez - Your Trauma Bestie™️ March 14, 2026 Duration: 25:55





Not feeling chosen by your caregivers is such a painful experience that it gets tucked into our subconscious, where it thrives without us even knowing! It's just hanging out in the shadows of our minds, making (usually not great) decisions for us and making us feel sad as hell. In this episode, we get into the impact of not being chosen in childhood—how it shows up in relationships, why it can be so hard to know that's even true for us, and how we can start to heal.

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Ever find yourself laughing through the pain because, honestly, what else is there to do? That's the space where The Patrauma Party-Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit lives. Hosted by Remy Ramirez, who you'll quickly come to know as Your Trauma Bestie, this isn't your typical solemn dive into psychology. It's a real, often surprisingly funny, and always compassionate conversation about why healing from past wounds feels so frustratingly difficult. Each episode alternates between insightful talks with mental health professionals and raw, practical coaching sessions where Remy guides real listeners through their immediate struggles. You'll hear people unpack why they're drawn to unavailable partners, how to quiet that voice doubting their worth, and what it truly takes to break free from cycles that talk of "just moving on" never seems to fix. The core question driving every discussion is a practical one: how do we actually change? If you're tired of theoretical advice and crave relatable stories and actionable steps, this podcast offers a sense of community and a much-needed dose of humor on the path toward understanding yourself better.
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